Turning lemons into lemonade

[Rob Monster]

From time to time, I feel moved to start a thread that I think might help one person in particular. However, considering the collective wisdom of many independent thinkers, this might also help others. This thread is about turning lemons into lemonade. As a self-described incurable optimist, it is one of my favorite topics. In my experience, the folks who figure this out early are better off than the ones who never learn it.

As context, on NamePros, I have met lots of cool people, some of whom have really amazing life stories. In fact, in 2019 alone, I have gotten to know many people here whom I now consider to be my trusted friends whose advice I keenly observe and in some of whom I now blindly trust. There are some folks here that are now practically family. And, yes, Epik also hired some folks here too.

To illustrate what I mean about lemons and lemonade, I will share a couple of examples that will be familiar to some NP members:

- Back in March 2019, a few people in the domain industry thought it would be a good idea to chastise me for protecting lawful free speech. This happened in blogs and also here on NamePros. I am not sure about their intention, but whoever was condemning me, ended up making me a lot more popular. In short, my response to being condemned was to engage with authenticity, and to let the crowd conclude for themselves if the manufactured consensus actually held any water. Well, many of you know how that worked out. Much to the chagrin of my harshest critics, Epik has gone from strength to strength as we co-create without care for who makes money or who gets credit.

- Earlier this year, Epik began to make significant inroads as a provider of escrow services for domain investors. The topic was introduced in a thread on NamePros, and within weeks, our friends at Escrow.com dispatched at least 6 state regulators to our doorstep. Although that process was time consuming, and even a bit daunting, we navigated those inquiries. One of the state regulators was kind enough to leak us the complaint. It fingered the instigator as one Jackson Elsegood. At one point when Jackson thought to engage in more of his nonsense, I let him have it, exposing Escrow.com once and for all. Matt Barrie got cute and he got a beatdown too! Our escrow business is booming, by the way and we are just getting started.


This is what I call turning lemons into lemonade. It is all about perspective. What are some principles:

- Be authentic: An early boss at P&G told me this: "First figure out the truth. Then explain truth." If you don't know yourself well enough to explain yourself, go fix that. If you know you screwed up, go deal with that. Acknowledge your faults. Everyone makes mistakes. Live and learn.

- Listen to your critics: Some of them are smart. They can teach you stuff, even if they don't really want to help you. The ones that point out your errors, probably never read Machiavelli who famously says to never interrupt your enemy when they are making a mistake.

- Try to find the upside: Is there some new circumstance that you had not considered before, consider whether you can accomplish something based on your unique situation. Most situations are not nearly as dire as you think they are. And indeed some things happen for a reason! That's providence.

- Find your tribe: Almost everyone loves an underdog. As long as you are not an unrepentant ass, people will come find you and share their wisdom for whatever you are dealing with at the moment. When the student is ready, the teacher appears. Humility is a great foundation for personal growth.


Here are a few simple examples that I know apply to some folks here:

- Spouse cheated on you? Be thankful, you are liberated. Learn from your mistakes. Up your game. Grow in grace. Have confidence that providence has a better spouse out there. Or go back, but on your terms.

- Lost a loved one? Consider setting up a charitable foundation in honor of what that person most cherished. In so doing, know that you are celebrating, preserving and extending their legacy.

- Lost your job? Perhaps that job was not right for you anyway. Assess your strengths and passions. Start a business, or find something that is more perfect for you. If you are diligent, it will work out great!

- Perpetually single? Consider becoming a Digital Nomad. Live anywhere for almost nothing and see the world. You will have way more stories to tell. I am trying to convince @franka46 to set up a Domainer Dojo.

- Sick or injured? Become an expert on personal health. Develop a spiritual practice. Make new friends. Let your light shine. Do you still think your life sucks? Listen to this guy:

The list goes on. I am sure everyone here has had their share of lemons. Curious to hear your story. If it involves domaining, even better!

 

[JB Lions]

LOL, I did...are you having issues with the English language?

To stay on topic, maybe you could share a 'lemon to lemonade' story of your own

Apparently, you're have a reading issue. You were dancing around it with your first 2 posts, not mentioning names. It was a general, I love Rob, I won't actually touch anything specific/on topic type of posting.

 

[Mister Funsky]

Apparently, you're have a reading issue. You were dancing around it with your first 2 posts, not mentioning names. It was a general, I love Rob, I won't actually touch anything specific/on topic type of posting.

Based on your obtuse response quoted above, I can only assume English is not your first language so please accept my apology for being insensitive to that fact.

Out of respect for Rob and this thread, I will move our tit for tat exchange to another thread where I can continue to take the lemons you cast and turn them to lemonade (see what I did there?). Maybe the mods will do the right thing and remove my posts, your posts and any other persons posts that don't stay true to the intent of the thread.

I will be shutting down for the night because I have an early meeting so I won't be responding much longer...we will pick things up later if you wish.

 

[JB Lions]

Based on your obtuse response quoted above, I can only assume English is not your first language so please accept my apology for being insensitive to that fact.

Out of respect for Rob and this thread, I will move our tit for tat exchange to another thread where I can continue to take the lemons you cast and turn them to lemonade (see what I did there?). Maybe the mods will do the right thing and remove my posts, your posts and any other persons posts that don't stay true to the intent of the thread.

I will be shutting down for the night because I have an early meeting so I won't be responding much longer...we will pick things up later if you wish.

Why in the world would you lie about it, when people can just literally read your first 2 posts? Again, you mention 0 names in those posts, but then say you're being direct? You also forgot your own post, let me bold it for you and put it in the biggest text NP has:

It is kind of you to show love to an antagonist (I am not singling anyone out here re: my prior post or this one for that matter).

JB, you are a clown

JB, you are a clown...lets see how you hold up under a microscope...didn't you promise to go away once upon a time? Do us all a favor and make it so.

Use Ignore Feature. Don't cry about something you have control over.

 

[Mister Funsky]

EDIT: Not going to get on your level

 

[Ategy]

Sigh .. this has really drifted off topic .. FYI people, just a few hours before Rob posted this, in an email exchange, I had mentioned that I will likely be losing my job of 23 years because of my knee issues and now after several weeks, my work insurance has decided I won't be getting any of that pay from that time because they've labelled my condition as chronic (even though the worst pains by far have been almost entirely limited to the specific movements I do at work).

What I've also mentioned on my blog and likely here and in preceding emails with Rob regarding things at Epik, is that I've also had multiple floodings, conflicts with my condo association/neighbours, uncooperative insurance, both my mom and dog have had serious health issues in the last two years (both doing better now thankfully), I had a non-domain import/export side-business lose a ton of money because our middle-man died overseas in the middle of our biggest transaction .. and then my side-business partner had a depression and left the country leaving me to pay and to handle everything .. on top of that .. the government thinks we actually made money and is after me for taxes .. and the paperwork I need was effectively lost when the middleman died in a country where there is no chance of getting it all resolved without paying more than what it would cost me to do nothing (and some other paper work was lost in my flooding).

But thankfully, aside from my grandfather who had a full life into his 90's, I haven't lost a loved one lately, nor did my ex cheat on me (as far as I know .. lol .. and while I am single, it's not an issue for me as I have too many other things to worry about for a while) .. and domains have been good to me in 2019 (unfortunately not well enough just yet for me to be ok with losing my job .. although I actually was envisioning leaving in another year or two) .. so I'm guessing he had other people in mind as well with his post and not just me, or maybe just didn't want to make me (or anyone else) feel singled out by the post so he added those other things? Either way, given the timing, I can say that this post was started with genuine on-topic intent (even if I don't have any lemons in my fridge).


As for the rest .. let me just say that sometimes in an argument .. both sides can be right .. and both sides can be wrong ..

Honestly @frank-germany .. the way you post it is extremely difficult to understand you. You often post 4-5 posts in a row .. sometimes with what looks like contradicting statements (although I guess sometimes that's a result of attempted sarcasm). I really suggest that until someone else posts after one of your posts, that you keep all your posts combined, and write in unbroken lines and sentences. Because while you often say good and relevant things, you really can't blame anyone for taking you out of context the way you write sometimes.

That being said .. you do have a right to be upset for having your information posted, and Rob definitely owes you an apology for that. But at the same time, you can't be taking that out of context either .. I'm just seeing what's linked above, but given the very likely context, he was using it in a way to say that neither of you are nazies, and not that he's trying to label you as one.

@frank-germany .. I really doubt you're a bad guy at all .. and I actually don't blame you for taking some of the things Rob has posted as being questionable. I too had my doubts about him, but have since had multiple exchanges which has let me come to understand him a bit more (even if we don't always agree). Ironically enough it was some of the posts by his former employee @Slanted that made me try to understand Rob a bit better (I was a bit invested in needing to come to a decision either way as I had started transferring domains to Epik the year before, when I had no clue about anything related to Rob in any way).

I really advise you to pick up the phone and call Rob. I'm not saying you should forgive him for anything .. but all this back and forth is really getting to be a bit much. Just try to listen to each other .. try to understand the other person's perspective .. and apologise to each other if there was any wrong doing by either or both parties. I'm not even saying either of you needs to accept the other's apology .. but for the sake of all future topics in NamePros, please take it off NamePros, or start a new topic and keep it focused there.

It's a little tough judging Rob, because there are two levels at play here. As a registrar operator, I respect his "I don't agree with what you say, but will fight for your right to say it" .. it's very clear that this is an established ingrained value of his far preceding anything to do with Gab or even Epik. So, whether you agree with his decision or not, I don't think it's fair for anyone to say any related decisions is just being an opportunist and wanting more business/money.

Also on that topic .. is that again .. there are two levels at play. Gab is clearly a hate-focused site. And while I 100% agree with Rob, in that the theory of Free Speech is foundationally important for a free democratic society .. at the same time it's an unfortunate reality that most of the internet is not about free speech.

"Free Speech" only works when harmful ideas (like racism, climate-change-denial and other forms of blind hate/ignorance) is openly and fairly challenged and debated (and ideally eventually proven to be wrong). Free Speech without confrontation, open/fair dialog and debate can indeed actually be harmful. In a self-contained, self-reinforcing tribe-like site like the Gabs of the world, while technically being open for all to participate, actually has the reality of mostly only containing one self-reinforcing side of a disgusting argument .. where there is no real debate .. no dialog .. it's just hate justifying and re-enforcing more hate.

But from a registrar stand-point .. it's about creating rules that apply to everyone without prejudice, and as long as Gab is technically open to all, then it's not really breaking the rules when nobody comes for the other side in a debate (although there certainly could indeed be hate speech/crimes which are indeed illegal in certain jurisdictions). So while it's an easy choice to personally hate sites like Gab, I can appreciate the challenge when it comes to global rules. But hate speech can't be ignored either ... but for that individual hate speech I mentioned, that I feel is more something for the courts, as I actually wouldn't feel comfortable with random registrar employees, inexperienced, and more importantly, untrained in such legal matters, to be deciding EITHER WAY whether something is appropriate or is not appropriate .. even if when at times it can and is obvious.

It's like the lawyer representing a criminal .. you want to hate them .. but without lawyers and a legally fair defence, the criminal in turn does not get a fair trial .. and in turn the entire justice system fails. While Free Speech differs quite a bit (Epik isn't actually the lawyer in this case .. they are actually the enabling of the right for people to talk) .. and you are free to agree or disagree .. but Epik is about making sure everyone has a right to speak .. while at the same time realising that there are some who will abuse the privilege .. but ultimately it's not up to them to make that judgement .. and that .. REGARDLESS as to if they agree or disagree with said content.

Again .. I'm not saying you have to agree or disagree with that .. I'm just trying to show how there can be a different perspective .. also please don't respond to this either way whether you do agree or not .. I actually understand and respect both sides of the coin here .. it is not as simple as most people would like it to be .. and I'm just trying to end the continuous back and forth that goes nowhere and does nothing but take discussions off-topic .. that being said .. if you do have something to say on the matter .. please do feel free to say it .. but PLEASE start a new topic!


*Going to take little Steamie for a nice long late-night walk .. where we will discuss his right to chase squirrels*

 

[Samer]

Thought break room is where we relax?

Yet Rob is faced with all these relentless attacks,

Easy there... you dont play fair,..
(offtopic narratives brought to stir it up)

act like you care... when all u do is tear
into Rob Monster!!!

lemons->lemonade isnt “free for all roast”
I believe in Rob, grateful for his posts!

 

[Samer]

My lemons into lemonade —> expose their agenda.!!

Always same people... wonder why..? Go Rob!!

Samer

 

[BradWilson]

Troll Jokes

How do you stop an Internet troll?
Seize their memes of production.

What is the difference between a Nerd and a Troll.
Trolls were once Nerds but they went over to the Dork side.

How many trolls does it take to change a light bulb?
None; Trolls never see the light anyway.

And finally...

How many lemons does it take to light up a light bulb?
It takes at least 4 lemons to light a small light bulb. Hey, maybe a Troll could use this to see the light???

 

[Rob Monster]

Sigh .. this has really drifted off topic .. FYI people, just a few hours before Rob posted this, in an email exchange, I had mentioned that I will likely be losing my job of 23 years because of my knee issues and now after several weeks, my work insurance has decided I won't be getting any of that pay from that time because they've labelled my condition as chronic (even though the worst pains by far have been almost entirely limited to the specific movements I do at work).

What I've also mentioned on my blog and likely here and in preceding emails with Rob regarding things at Epik, is that I've also had multiple floodings, conflicts with my condo association/neighbours, uncooperative insurance, both my mom and dog have had serious health issues in the last two years (both doing better now thankfully), I had a non-domain import/export side-business lose a ton of money because our middle-man died overseas in the middle of our biggest transaction .. and then my side-business partner had a depression and left the country leaving me to pay and to handle everything .. on top of that .. the government thinks we actually made money and is after me for taxes .. and the paperwork I need was effectively lost when the middleman died in a country where there is no chance of getting it all resolved without paying more than what it would cost me to do nothing (and some other paper work was lost in my flooding).

But thankfully, aside from my grandfather who had a full life into his 90's, I haven't lost a loved one lately, nor did my ex cheat on me (as far as I know .. lol .. and while I am single, it's not an issue for me as I have too many other things to worry about for a while) .. and domains have been good to me in 2019 (unfortunately not well enough just yet for me to be ok with losing my job .. although I actually was envisioning leaving in another year or two) .. so I'm guessing he had other people in mind as well with his post and not just me, or maybe just didn't want to make me (or anyone else) feel singled out by the post so he added those other things? Either way, given the timing, I can say that this post was started with genuine on-topic intent (even if I don't have any lemons in my fridge).


As for the rest .. let me just say that sometimes in an argument .. both sides can be right .. and both sides can be wrong ..

Honestly @frank-germany .. the way you post it is extremely difficult to understand you. You often post 4-5 posts in a row .. sometimes with what looks like contradicting statements (although I guess sometimes that's a result of attempted sarcasm). I really suggest that until someone else posts after one of your posts, that you keep all your posts combined, and write in unbroken lines and sentences. Because while you often say good and relevant things, you really can't blame anyone for taking you out of context the way you write sometimes.

That being said .. you do have a right to be upset for having your information posted, and Rob definitely owes you an apology for that. But at the same time, you can't be taking that out of context either .. I'm just seeing what's linked above, but given the very likely context, he was using it in a way to say that neither of you are nazies, and not that he's trying to label you as one.

@frank-germany .. I really doubt you're a bad guy at all .. and I actually don't blame you for taking some of the things Rob has posted as being questionable. I too had my doubts about him, but have since had multiple exchanges which has let me come to understand him a bit more (even if we don't always agree). Ironically enough it was some of the posts by his former employee @Slanted that made me try to understand Rob a bit better (I was a bit invested in needing to come to a decision either way as I had started transferring domains to Epik the year before, when I had no clue about anything related to Rob in any way).

I really advise you to pick up the phone and call Rob. I'm not saying you should forgive him for anything .. but all this back and forth is really getting to be a bit much. Just try to listen to each other .. try to understand the other person's perspective .. and apologise to each other if there was any wrong doing by either or both parties. I'm not even saying either of you needs to accept the other's apology .. but for the sake of all future topics in NamePros, please take it off NamePros, or start a new topic and keep it focused there.

It's a little tough judging Rob, because there are two levels at play here. As a registrar operator, I respect his "I don't agree with what you say, but will fight for your right to say it" .. it's very clear that this is an established ingrained value of his far preceding anything to do with Gab or even Epik. So, whether you agree with his decision or not, I don't think it's fair for anyone to say any related decisions is just being an opportunist and wanting more business/money.

Also on that topic .. is that again .. there are two levels at play. Gab is clearly a hate-focused site. And while I 100% agree with Rob, in that the theory of Free Speech is foundationally important for a free democratic society .. at the same time it's an unfortunate reality that most of the internet is not about free speech.

"Free Speech" only works when harmful ideas (like racism, climate-change-denial and other forms of blind hate/ignorance) is openly and fairly challenged and debated (and ideally eventually proven to be wrong). Free Speech without confrontation, open/fair dialog and debate can indeed actually be harmful. In a self-contained, self-reinforcing tribe-like site like the Gabs of the world, while technically being open for all to participate, actually has the reality of mostly only containing one self-reinforcing side of a disgusting argument .. where there is no real debate .. no dialog .. it's just hate justifying and re-enforcing more hate.

But from a registrar stand-point .. it's about creating rules that apply to everyone without prejudice, and as long as Gab is technically open to all, then it's not really breaking the rules when nobody comes for the other side in a debate (although there certainly could indeed be hate speech/crimes which are indeed illegal in certain jurisdictions). So while it's an easy choice to personally hate sites like Gab, I can appreciate the challenge when it comes to global rules. But hate speech can't be ignored either ... but for that individual hate speech I mentioned, that I feel is more something for the courts, as I actually wouldn't feel comfortable with random registrar employees, inexperienced, and more importantly, untrained in such legal matters, to be deciding EITHER WAY whether something is appropriate or is not appropriate .. even if when at times it can and is obvious.

It's like the lawyer representing a criminal .. you want to hate them .. but without lawyers and a legally fair defence, the criminal in turn does not get a fair trial .. and in turn the entire justice system fails. While Free Speech differs quite a bit (Epik isn't actually the lawyer in this case .. they are actually the enabling of the right for people to talk) .. and you are free to agree or disagree .. but Epik is about making sure everyone has a right to speak .. while at the same time realising that there are some who will abuse the privilege .. but ultimately it's not up to them to make that judgement .. and that .. REGARDLESS as to if they agree or disagree with said content.

Again .. I'm not saying you have to agree or disagree with that .. I'm just trying to show how there can be a different perspective .. also please don't respond to this either way whether you do agree or not .. I actually understand and respect both sides of the coin here .. it is not as simple as most people would like it to be .. and I'm just trying to end the continuous back and forth that goes nowhere and does nothing but take discussions off-topic .. that being said .. if you do have something to say on the matter .. please do feel free to say it .. but PLEASE start a new topic!


*Going to take little Steamie for a nice long late-night walk .. where we will discuss his right to chase squirrels*

It is rarely possible to do justice to an @Ategy.com mega-post so I won't try, but short thoughts:

- This thread was supposed to encourage folks. The folks who rated this thread as being stupid are certainly allowed to do that but indeed this is in the break room and you guys are on the official #PartyPooper list but it is not too late to change your vote before it is memorialized.

- I appreciate that @Ategy.com shares some of his own challenges. ICYMI, the man loves to walk his dog Steamie but now has a bad knee. That sucks, but on the other hand, he is now perhaps forced to develop new hobbies or maybe investigate more about the meaning of life.

- The Gab thing is a somewhat frustrating part of my legacy. What some folks don't get is that I took a risk in drawing a line on lawful free speech. I engaged on that site, in part to make sure that they stayed on the right side of the line. I am not active there. I did meet some smart Christian Libertarians there.

As for the onward path of this thread, I think this is a suitable thread to just look for some encouragement from people who have stared into the abyss and went on to find out what was on the other side of that valley of adversity. Stay positive, keep learning, and believe the best is yet to come. I do.





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[karmaco]

The same people follow, troll and make off topic comments in every single thread started by @Rob Monster. It’s tiresome and childish. If you don’t like him don’t read or post. Simple.

As far as the tired ass Escrow argument: Afternic, Dynadot,NameSilo, all the brandable marketplaces, GoDaddy, NameBright, DAN, etc to ad nauseum, act as financial intermediaries in the sale of domain names without any escrow license. Note,only Epik was targeted and reported. That tells me all I need to know about that situation.

At the time of the controversies, I thought Rob should back down and stop posting. I was wrong. Obviously that is not in his nature and exactly what his critics here and elsewhere wanted. You can say what you like but I would trust he has domainers backs way more than any of the super big boys in this industry who should but don’t .

That desire to build not just his own but domainers wallets up and innovate is the lemonade in this year long battle to discredit him and Epik IMO.

 

[JB Lions]

That desire to build not just his own but domainers wallets up and innovate is the lemonade in this year long battle to discredit him and Epik IMO.

Nope, sorry. I actually said in the other thread that he should just stick to business. He's an active CEO, that's good. When problems come up, they get handled, that's good etc. Do that good stuff. That advice would be good for business right? But when you post videos and in them talking about Gab or start threads like this, again talking about Gab. He keeps on bringing the crap over, at the same time dressing it up, pretending it was something else. Then you open it up to response. If somebody quotes him and responds it's on topic. All these fan boy posts are off topic, they're basically empty posts.

And in the first post, if you truly want to mentor people, then actually walk your posts. Saying you let somebody have it, or beat them down, comes across like some junior high stuff.

Try it and you'll see, you would have less of this stuff. Less promotional posts would probably help as well. Where threads are started with the main goal of pushing a product. A recent example, dropping promotions in literally 3 different posts, it really is Captain Obvious type stuff. True discussion of course is always welcome.

 

[Samer]

And correct me if I’m wrong, isnt this personal issue settled? (In appropriate thread) we get you hurt...

quit trying bringing it up every window, opportunity!!
The personal stuff should be kept personal, frankly i domain to get away from politics. Save for political, or the “bash Rob” thread you’re avoiding caspiciously

Rob said he would fight all the vitriol, anger, hatred head-on in that thread, which he’s done admirably for 100 pages, defin

Samer

Nope, sorry. I actually said in the other thread that he should just stick to business. He's an active CEO, that's good. When problems come up, they get handled, that's good etc. Do that good stuff. But when you post videos and in them talking about Gab or start threads like this, again talking about Gab. He keeps on bringing the crap over, at the same time dressing it up, pretending it was something else. Then you open it up to response. If somebody quotes him and responds it's on topic. All these fan boy posts are off topic, they're basically empty posts.

And in the first post, if you truly want to mentor people, then actually walk your posts. Saying you let somebody have it, or beat them down, comes across like some junior high stuff.

Try it and you'll see, you would have less of this stuff. Less promotional posts would probably help as well. Where threads are started with the main goal of pushing a product. A recent example, dropping promotions in literally 3 different posts, it really is Captain Obvious type stuff. True discussion of course is always welcome.

I doubt anything i say change ur Rob misconception, u keep trying project...

"Fanboy"? Careful... sensing another "deplorable" ...

i dont know who work for, but i bet u, i dont know ur CEO looks like...

That's the difference.

Samer

 

[JB Lions]

And correct me if I’m wrong, isnt this personal issue settled? (In appropriate thread) we get you hurt...

quit trying bringing it up every window, opportunity!!
The personal stuff should be kept personal, frankly i domain to get away from politics. Save for political, or the “bash Rob” thread you’re avoiding caspiciously

Rob said he would fight all the vitriol, anger, hatred head-on in that thread, which he’s done admirably for 100 pages, defin

Samer


I doubt anything i say change ur Rob misconception, u keep trying project...

"Fanboy"? Careful... sensing another "deplorable" ...

i dont know who work for, but i bet u, i dont know ur CEO looks like...

That's the difference.

Samer

You really need to learn to read. I don't start these threads referencing Gab. Not sure what part of quote and reply you're not getting.

Look at my very post in this thread, it was reply to this:

"Personal attacks and belittling of others are not tolerated."

And I said that should be for everybody. So you either agree with that or not. If you agree with it, then it goes for Rob as well. And I quoted where he did that and just touched on it again in my last post "let somebody have it, or beat them down". You're not touching that part, you're just doing rah rah posting.

So if you want some lemons into lemonade stuff, learn from this thread. Gab has been talked to death already, do we really need more of it? This is part of the problem:

I engaged on that site, in part to make sure that they stayed on the right side of the line.

Now see my earlier post to see if that is accurate.

 

[Ategy]

The folks who rated this thread as being stupid are certainly allowed to do that but indeed this is in the break room and you guys are on the official #PartyPooper list but it is not too late to change your vote before it is memorialized.

Yeah .. but maybe they voted "this thread is stupid" exactly because they weren't taking it too seriously!? lol ... Anyhow .. you know my opinion of pools .. and true to form .. I actually not only didn't look at the results of this one .. I forgot it was even a poll .. depending on the poll, I almost always just look at the discussions and actual content. That's the problem with the internet .. everyone just votes something quick or makes a quick undeveloped comment .. and then things get taken out of context .. or more importantly .. people just jump to take sides instead everyone communicating, sharing their own thoughts and opinion *AND* listening and considering the differing thoughts and opinions of others.

People often tell me to post shorter .. but to me it's important that the things I say be very clear and not be taken out of context. Most of us are lucky to live in countries where indeed we do have free speech .. but too many people take that right for granted .. and more importantly that the foundation of free speech is the sharing and discussing of ideas *AND* being open to the ideas of others (even if you most certainly also have the right not to agree .. and should give detailed reasons why not if that's indeed the case .. THAT is the reason for having Free Speech in the first place).

- The Gab thing is a somewhat frustrating part of my legacy. What some folks don't get is that I took a risk in drawing a line on lawful free speech. I engaged on that site, in part to make sure that they stayed on the right side of the line. I am not active there. I did meet some smart Christian Libertarians there.

You see .. that's what I saw .. and because of that, I was able to respect your intentions even if I didn't agree with what you did .. but that comprehension was only because I had talked with you directly .. I can't blame some people for being upset .. because that one little detail that were unaware of makes a big difference. In all fairness to you though .. by that time, most people weren't willing to listen or try to understand your perspective. Which again .. is part of the problem as to why free speech on the internet is a non-existent fallacy .. because most people only yell out their point of view without trying to understand the other point of view.

ICYMI, the man loves to walk his dog Steamie but now has a bad knee.

Actually .. with the exception of the last month, my knee issues were pretty much only at work (because of the very specific movements I do there), the doctors and specialists actually have said walking is one of the best things I can do .. so little Steamie is happy .. although we've always walked tons ever since I adopted him! We just got back from a nice 3 hour midnight walk (ironically enough I twisted my ankle .. not on an empty container of lemonade .. lol)!

- I appreciate that @Ategy.com shares some of his own challenges

I don't really hide much because I mention a lot of that sort of stuff on my blog from time to time .. so it's not really secret. Plus I do know it's encouraging to others to see despite everything else going wrong .. at least domaining is going well for me. I think overall despite the fact I've only been actively domaining 3 years, that most of my advice is pretty good.

That sucks, but on the other hand, he is now perhaps forced to develop new hobbies or maybe investigate more about the meaning of life.

I've already got a pretty good grasp of it all (including the meaning of life .. the answer is 42 right?) ... things were actually slowly but surely coming back on track for me .. life was actually getting better (I was never one to be too depressed to begin with) .. I was even looking forward to slowly moving away from my job and indeed focusing more on domains and maybe finding something complimentary in the domain industry (my current job couldn't be any further away from domains .. lol) .. it's just that with this new added issue of the worsening of my knees at work and effectively not being able to go back to work to get paid and the recent news that insurance would not be covering my time off .. that has really thrown a monkey-wrench in my short / medium term plans. I'm in my 40s, but now am forced to figure out what I want to do when I grow up!

 

[Ategy]

At the time of the controversies, I thought Rob should back down and stop posting. I was wrong. Obviously that is not in his nature and exactly what his critics here and elsewhere wanted. You can say what you like but I would trust he has domainers backs way more than any of the super big boys in this industry who should but don’t .

Nope, sorry. I actually said in the other thread that he should just stick to business. He's an active CEO, that's good. When problems come up, they get handled, that's good etc. Do that good stuff. But when you post videos and in them talking about Gab or start threads like this, again talking about Gab. He keeps on bringing the crap over, at the same time dressing it up, pretending it was something else. Then you open it up to response. If somebody quotes him and responds it's on topic. All these fan boy posts are off topic, they're basically empty posts.
And in the first post, if you truly want to mentor people, then actually walk your posts. Saying you let somebody have it, or beat them down, comes across like some junior high stuff.

I hope you guys realise that both your points are valid. It most definitely would be great and helpful/informative if all registrar CEOs were even half as active in the community as Rob .. because there's no denying we learn a lot of insightful things from him .. but at the same time .. maybe Rob might go a little too far for what some people (for whom he holds the keys to their domains at Epik) are comfortable with .. because while he is indeed gaining more and more customers .. there is also no denying that there are also people who specifically do not go there because of him.

More importantly .. he is a person and entitled to his views and opinions .. and he is also a CEO of a company that is holding thousands of our domains. So where's the line? (Please don't answer that .. it's a rhetorical question with no absolute answer .. lol)

In a world where most people don't really care about much .. it's very important to stick to your morals .. but at the same time .. sometimes you got to get the work done because morals don't pay the bills!

It's all about balance .. and maybe if I had a little more, I wouldn't have twisted my ankle on my way back home with Steamie a bit earlier! lol

 

[oldtimer]

Look at my very post in this thread, it was reply to this:

"Personal attacks and belittling of others are not tolerated."

And I said that should be for everybody. So you either agree with that or not. If you agree with it, then it goes for Rob as well.

You make a good point and I don't consider that trolling. But the question is whether all those who keep criticizing Rob mean to encourage him to correct some of his past mistakes or do they just want to destroy him as a person and as a Registrar. In all fairness Rob himself has already admitted that perhaps he was wrong in supporting certain speech and actions made by some of the members of certain groups considering that there were no effective measures taken to keep those members inline and that he has now drawn some lines as to what he allows at Epik. As for the part that falls under free speech being exercised lawfully by certain groups that might be considered undesirable by the society at large then that is something for the courts to handle as far as what limits if any should be put on their activities. I personally see some improvements in Rob's judgment and behavior compare to when all this started and if people here like to see even more improvements in that regards then they should engage Rob in a constructive and friendly manner instead of badgering and attacking him all the time. And people should also understand that he is entitled to have his own political, religious, and racial views and beliefs just like everyone else here.

IMO

 

[JB Lions]

You make a good point and I don't consider that trolling. But the question is whether all those who keep criticizing Rob mean to encourage him to correct some of his past mistakes or do they just want to destroy him as a person and as a Registrar. In all fairness Rob himself has already admited that perhaps he was wrong in supporting certain speech and actions made by some of the members of certain groups considering that there were no effective measures taken to keep those members inline and that he has now drawn some lines as to what he allows at Epik. As for the part that falls under free speech being exercised lawfully by certain groups that might be considered undesirable by the society at large then that is something for the courts to handle as far as what limits if any should be put on their activities. I personally see some improvements in Rob's judgment and behavior compare to when all this started and if people here like to see even more improvements in that regards then they should engage Rob in a constructive and friendly manner instead of badgering and attaking him all the time. And people should also understand that he is entitled to have his own political, religious, and racial views and beliefs just like everyone else here.

IMO

Me telling him to stick to business is the opposite of destroying a registrar. It's just good business sense. People telling him not to engage with that hate site or incel site was good advice meant to help him. He just made bad choices.

It's very simple, also goes to the question asked in this thread about those "this thread is stupid votes". Some could be jokes but I think some is:

Keep bringing up Gab on a domaining forum when it's old news. It never ends well, you figure people would have learned this by now.

The overly promotional threads started, many in the General Discussion forum, this thread itself.

The first post is all kinds of contradiction, even the last one is just flat out not true.

As far as good business sense, it just baffles me why he brings it up again, literally linking to the thread. Imagine new domainers not knowing about any of this and reading that thread. There are going to be some that just don't care, just focus on the business, cheap regs, helpful registrar etc. There are some that are going to be turned off by it, that's lost business.

 

[frank-germany]

I think you missed the point and object lesson: I am not a Nazi, and neither are you. We both know this so let's dispense with this silly game, shall we, or if you insist on carrying out your little LARP operation, then do so in a thread that is pertinent to that topic. This thread is is about domainers overcoming adversity. If you have something constructive to contribute to that topic, be my guest.

Rob, I don't think you are nazi at all

And I don't think
you think of me as a nazi

I can't possibly be a leftist
and an atheist
( thats what you called me )
and a nazi at the same time

The one who is missing the point is you.

We are talking about lemons.

Means we are talking how you, Rob
posted questionable stuff
and turned it into a promotion
for yourself and epik

thats what this post is about


Here is the lemon you gave me:

you used private information of my persona
taken from your epik database
that has only been known to you
as I 'm a customer of repik

exposed my real name here at namepros
which wasn't done before

in order to discredit me

now that's what I call a lemon

 

[frank-germany]

JB - Let's be a tiny bit honest with each other, shall we? Everyone here knows that Frank has been a perpetual troll on my threads for months.

what is a troll?

what is free speech?


make up your mind, Rob

I was always on topic
otherwise posts were deleted anyway


no idea how a persoal conversation in this thread can be off-topic
as the OP requested very personal information to be posted

This thread is about turning lemons into lemonade.... There are some folks here that are now practically family....
- Be authentic: ... Make new friends. Let your light shine. Do you still think your life sucks? Listen to this guy:... I am sure everyone here has had their share of lemons. Curious to hear your story...

 

[Rob Monster]

Rob, I don't think you are nazi at all

And I don't think
you think of me as a nazi

I can't possibly be a leftist
and an atheist
( thats what you called me )
and a nazi at the same time

The one who is missing the point is you.

We are talking about lemons.

Means we are talking how you, Rob
posted questionable stuff
and turned it into a promotion
for yourself and epik

thats what this post is about


Here is the lemon you gave me:

you used private information of my persona
taken from your epik database
that has only been known to you
as I 'm a customer of repik

exposed my real name here at namepros
which wasn't done before

in order to discredit me

now that's what I call a lemon

Well, Frank, I apologize if I have caused your grief of some kind. It was not my intention.

You are most definitely not a private person. Your WHOIS is all over the place based on a reverse lookup of any of the domains you have been pitching recently. While free WHOIS privacy does exist, it is apparent that you choose to generally not use it as anyone with a DomainIQ account could discover.

That said, if there is some post of mine that you feel is personally insensitive to you, just PM me the links and we'll see about having a Mod take them down. It is not worth endlessly revisiting even if the intent was to harmless illustrate a logical construct that we both agree on: neither of us are Nazis.

Have a great Wednesday!