Women Webmasters: Why Are Relationships So Impossible?

[dezinerite]

I get called "sir" a lot online..but I'm actually not a 'sir'. :D

To the other women webmasters here: why is it so difficult to maintain a relationship? Throughout my life online, my strings of boyfriends have all been very unhappy because they tell me that I spend too much time online. Perhaps I should stop spending time with "jocks" and start dating geeks who enjoy being online just like me?

Those who have been able to maintain serious and successful relationships - care to share some secrets?

Yours,
Fed Up.

 

[firefly]

Don't feel that it is a female thing. I know plenty of good guys that have worked their asses off to get ahead, only to have the personal part fall out of their lives because they couldn't see what was happening in their relationships because of that drive.

It's about balance without losing site of what you want to achieve and allowing the rest of you life happen as well.

 

[Ms Domainer]

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I have been married for 29 years (same guy, lol), but he's not in the industry and doesn't understand it at all.

He complains as well, that is, until the money comes in.

I didn't start in this industry until 2007, so we were, as a couple, already established.

I think domainers share some characteristics--impulsiveness being the main one.

I have to work hard at curbing my impulsiveness, and better half helps me there. He tends to be cautious, so I help him be more free wheeling.

It seems to work, but we still have our "days."



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[dezinerite]

So I suppose getting someone who is in the same industry will be an absolute chaos. :D

 

[Sabre]

I don't think it makes a difference if you are male or female, having a job that is predominantly online, particularly if you work from home can be challenging. Its sometimes difficult to find the right work-life balance and you need to be able to step back and say 'enough time on the computer for today' each evening, or you can find between work, forums, facebook, games (whatever you are up to online) you can find yourself spending far too long online each day. Remember that money doesnt equal happiness, and a real person you can physically interact with will always be better than the online equivalent.

Remember that there are lots of people who work online who arent geeky (if you are into the 'jock' type youll still find them online, though obviously they are harder to find!) and there are also a lot of guys out there who will understand why you spend so much time online -but remember not to take advantage of that and put them first every now and again

Relationships will sadly always be complicated!

 

[biggie]

Throughout my life online, my strings of boyfriends have all been very unhappy because they tell me that I spend too much time online. Perhaps I should stop spending time with "jocks" and start dating geeks who enjoy being online just like me?

Those who have been able to maintain serious and successful relationships - care to share some secrets?

Yours,
Fed Up.

:talk:

hey baby cakes, get you a virtual man and kick dem other dudes to the curb

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I have been married for 29 years (same guy, lol), but he's not in the industry and doesn't understand it at all.

He complains as well, that is, until the money comes in.

:talk:


dem chiz-zecks make a big difference, don't they


from male perspective, i went thru same shiz-zit


but when dem chiz-zecks started coming, the cumz came more often

 

[RogueWriter]

I chose not to sleep.

After a couple of years, in 2002 my wife saw one of my affiliate marketing commission checks, in the four digit range, and I explained that that was one of several I would receive that month; she has been my biggest fan ever since. My commissions have slacked off dramatically over the years, though, as I have shifted to helping her to build her candy store. I make caramels at night, now, instead of product pages, lol.


Oh, and I have a 21 year old son that would LOVE to meet a computer-centric girl of the same age. Just sayin'

 

[.NJ]

my wife saw one of my affiliate marketing commission checks, in the four digit range, and I explained that that was one of several I would receive that month

You actually show your wife all your online profits?

I only show her what see needs to see.

The rest is hidden for my candy fund.

 

[RogueWriter]

You actually show your wife all your online profits?

I only show her what see needs to see.

The rest is hidden for my candy fund.

Lol, what can I say, she got the mail. Plus at the time, I was contemplating going to affiliate marketing full time, that's the sort of thing you need to talk to a spouse about!

 

[fm1234]

If you make your living online, or just really really enjoy being online, the very first time your significant other complains about it, kick him to the curb. The world is completely flooded in single men and women, most of whom are not crazy, many of whom are attractive, some of whom have their shit together, and a few of whom will like you just fine the way you are.

Sometime in the last century, humanity went collectively stupid, and everyone seems to have sort of agreed to the idea that we're supposed to stick it out and compromise and find common ground between our conflicts. Pshaw, I say. Move on and find somebody else. If you're not quite ready to do that, point out that you didn't actually ask him what he thought of the time you spend online, and leave it at that.

Whatever you do, do not answer criticism with criticism. It's a stupid mistake, and sets up a cycle where his own criticisms of you are validated by your counter-criticisms. Just blow off his criticisms like some lint you found on your elbow, and if doesn't like it, find somebody else.


Frank

(same girl for thirteen years, married for nine, neither one of us would take a teaspoonful of the other's crap, and as far as we can tell we get along vastly better than any other couple we know.)

 

[Ms Domainer]

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Any relationship is a balancing act.

The best indicator of a successful relationship: when better half sticks with you during the tough times.

My sweetie has passed the test in the past three months as I have struggled (and continue to struggle) with a family tragedy.

I'm not exactly a barrel of laughs lately, and yet better half hangs in there, beside me.

 

[SpareDomains]

Don't feel that it is a female thing. I know plenty of good guys that have worked their asses off to get ahead, only to have the personal part fall out of their lives because they couldn't see what was happening in their relationships because of that drive.

It's about balance without losing site of what you want to achieve and allowing the rest of you life happen as well.

Mine was reversed, internet work didn't destroy a relationship, my previous bad relationship is actually what propelled me into geeking out and going full throttle, better than drinking I suppose, development is now there, increase in cash is now there, but slowly I'm trying to slide the work back down and regain my previous fun personal life, all about balance and this internet work is addictive so easy to lose time and life is short. I actually wouldn't mind trying to date a tech chick or someone that at least understands the terminology as usually when I talk about what I'm working on they nod but you can tell they have no clue what the hell I'm talking about.

 

[Keral_Patel]

Well I have spent my entire 10 years over here.

In first 5 years I used to always whine about how much I am missing out on personal life. But then in order to get successful professionally I had to do everything and do it even if it meant some sacrifices to be made.

Then suddenly I got a break and I was enjoying personal life. [Don't want to go into details here hehhe]

After getting hurt in personal life I was totally wrecked. Spent some months whining on that one and now I am back where I belong. I am having fun again and doing what I am good at.

 

[aditd]

I get called "sir" a lot online..but I'm actually not a 'sir'. :D

To the other women webmasters here: why is it so difficult to maintain a relationship? Throughout my life online, my strings of boyfriends have all been very unhappy because they tell me that I spend too much time online. Perhaps I should stop spending time with "jocks" and start dating geeks who enjoy being online just like me?

Those who have been able to maintain serious and successful relationships - care to share some secrets?

Yours,
Fed Up.

Listen to you partner. If he says don't spend that much on the internet, what he means is don't spend that much time on the internet.

 

[KingDon]

I guess that's part of this dream, building a nice living from working a couple hours a day, finding a hot girl who can pack light, carries her own business in her laptop, and likes to follow the sun as well.

Good luck with your search, you're not alone, and this would be a great idea for a dating site. Very niche specific, people who can live anywhere when ever they choose to go. I traveled like that for two years, and it got boring; don't get me wrong, there was fun and beautiful things to see, but most of the girls I met were unable/unwilling to just take off.

Good luck, and let me know if you ever find a place where dot com drifters congregate.

 

[dezinerite]

Listen to you partner. If he says don't spend that much on the internet, what he means is don't spend that much time on the internet.

We broke up some time last year actually. Another relationship down the drain.:wave: I honestly know that I put people first. So I don't know what they're on about. He'd go to sleep at 10pm and just because that's the time I would choose to start working (until the early hours of the morning), he felt the best thing to do was to whine about it. I'm half geek, half nympho...what more could anyone want? LMAO!

I'm dating...yet again. This time I'm dating a nerd (which I've never done before). We'll see how it goes. If someone can understand the necessity of hard work, it's someone who thrives in such environment. I don't find him particularly physically attractive, but he's healthy, wealthy and wise so that'll do. :bingo:

I guess that's part of this dream, building a nice living from working a couple hours a day, finding a hot girl who can pack light, carries her own business in her laptop, and likes to follow the sun as well.

Good luck with your search, you're not alone, and this would be a great idea for a dating site. Very niche specific, people who can live anywhere when ever they choose to go. I traveled like that for two years, and it got boring; don't get me wrong, there was fun and beautiful things to see, but most of the girls I met were unable/unwilling to just take off.

Good luck, and let me know if you ever find a place where dot com drifters congregate.

There are already several dating sites available for 'geeks' or the 'computer-dependent' folks out there. Although I live far away from civilization, LOL so I can't just meet up with anyone on there. How sad.

One day if I ever get married, my husband and I will most likely get separate bedrooms because I will be in bed with my computer. :D