Australia: 7 women out of 10 cheat their husband

[italiandragon]

Cheating hearts: are women the new men?

Are you itching to step out on your man? If so, you're not alone.
Some might think doing the dirty is something men have the edge on, but according to research by couples therapist Dr Zita Weber, more women are cheating on their partners right now than at any time in Australia's social history.

With seven out of 10 married women admitting to taking a lover during their marriage, infidelity is definitely not a boy's only club any longer. What's going on?

"Many women say they want good sex and they want a man who can talk to them and not take them for granted," says Dr Weber, author of Unfaithfully Yours (New Holland).

"They want a man who ticks most of their boxes. Sometimes, they need to give into a little temptation and take on a lover who ticks the rest."

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Temptations

Modern life is certainly rife with temptations — from close workmates to that cute barista who froths your latte every morning. Even at home, your laptop gives you unlimited access to flirt with trouble. The man who got away? He's at your fingertips on Facebook.

It's also easier now to cover your tracks; sending a five-second "stuck at work, love you!" text is all it takes to put those unaccountable four hours safely behind you.

Cheaters are even getting a thumbs-up from Hollywood. "I doubt that fidelity is absolutely essential for a relationship," Angelina Jolie told reporters recently.

"Neither Brad nor I have ever claimed that living together means to be chained together. We make sure that we never restrict each other."

Phew, if Brad Pitt can't keep a woman satisfied, what hope does the rest of mankind have?

From corporate high-flying to academic excellence, women are kicking butt in every other previously male-dominated field, so should it come as any surprise that the scales of infidelity are now balancing out too? Are women just getting their fair share?

Quite possibly says sex guru Tracey Cox, but she points out that women aren't usually cheating for the same reasons men are.

No satisfaction?

While a man who says he's perfectly happy with his partner may still find it hard turning down the opportunity for a bit on the side, women who stray generally report something missing at home.

"Statistically, women don't cheat for the sake of sex. It's of secondary concern for them," Cox says. "The number-one reason they cheat is for an emotional connection. And this is particularly true of women over the age of 30."

Dr Weber agrees. "A woman may be having an affair because she's not getting the love and attention she needs or she's bored and wants something a little more dangerous and exciting," she says. "Women may be tempted when they're feeling vulnerable and fragile or when they need to have their sexual identity reaffirmed."

And Dr Weber has some really bad news for men. "[Women] may be tempted to have an affair to test themselves and their empowerment before leaving a relationship [the exit affair] or when they want to even the score or claim back their power from a controlling partner [the revenge affair]."

Ouch! Husbands and boyfriends, consider yourself warned.

 

[italiandragon]

strange...no comments from anyone, I though it was a very shocking news....well at least for the few silly guys like me who believe in trust/faith/honesty.

 

[pureblue]

Lolz it starts with "women are the new men"

 

[Dotmainer]

lol, i'm not from australia ... maybe i should travel there :P

 

[SpareDomains]

booking my flight now, hopefully I can pull 7 out of 10 at the bar. :notme:

 

[Michelle]

I have been loyal for 20 years and will continue to do so. Partners become sole mates, friends and part of yourself.. If you are in a relationship with either partner looking elsewhere, you are in the wrong relationship in the first place imo

 

[Vito]

I have been loyal for 20 years and will continue to do so. Partners become sole mates, friends and part of yourself.. If you are in a relationship with either partner looking elsewhere, you are in the wrong relationship in the first place imo

I hate articles/news like this.

I'm like you ItalianDragon, I still believe in trust/faith/honesty but sometimes when you hear about a friend of yours, or family member cheated, you think wtf?
Then you start to think everyone cheats.

I really like hearing the positive stories, like Mellow's comment
btw Mellow, Is your husband on the Forum here, just curious???

 

[Michelle]

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btw Mellow, Is your husband on the Forum here, just curious???

OMG no hehe he does not use a computer much at all. He is 56 and not interested in the internet. I am still trying to convince him that my time spent here is worth some $ :p

 

[Vito]

OMG no hehe he does not use a computer much at all. He is 56 and not interested in the internet. I am still trying to convince him that my time spent here is worth some $ :p

Ahhh, ok...
Well congrats to you on a great/faithful 20 year relationship!
It takes work, but at the end of every day, you can sleep a lot better knowing you have done the right thing.

and about convincing him on the making $ while being here on NP...
Best of Luck to you w/that! :lol:

 

[dgridley]

Unfortunately, I don't know a woman of majority that hasn't cheated.. I'm speaking of women I know personally. A sad thing but they all seem to see it in shades of grey. Me, I see it in black and white and believe, as Michelle does, that if you cheat or are tempted to cheat, you're in the wrong relationship.

Just as unfortunately, for many, trust/faith/honesty flew out the window with the new morals, Lifetime tv, and daytime talk shows. :p

 

[andr69]

This news doesn't seem chocking for me at all - this is the appropriate corollary of contemporary world values((

 

[italiandragon]

This news doesn't seem chocking for me at all - this is the appropriate corollary of contemporary world values((

I agree.

Ethics are "unknown things" for too many people these days.

 

[mtown934]

Wow, Australians are just completely ridiculous! I would never even dream of cheating on a girlfriend, let alone my loving devoted wife. It's terrible what they're doing.

 

[newsiness]

I have been loyal for 20 years and will continue to do so. Partners become sole mates, friends and part of yourself.. If you are in a relationship with either partner looking elsewhere, you are in the wrong relationship in the first place imo

Seems that you have found your true love...congrats to your the other half.

 

[confident50]

Thanks to god......as i am not an australian lol

are women the new men?

I liked this comment

 

[italiandragon]

Wow, Australians are just completely ridiculous! I would never even dream of cheating on a girlfriend, let alone my loving devoted wife. It's terrible what they're doing.

Please, tell me where are you from?

according to recent statistics the worst is coming from all English speaking Countries...wonder who is the example they are following?

(generation Hollywood has reached the 30s... )

 

[Jessica_ph]

Phew, if Brad Pitt can't keep a woman satisfied, what hope does the rest of mankind have?

Well, Brad Pitt is not the representative of the whole mankind. He's just one of the many male species walking around the planet, only with a better suit.

Doesn't matter if it is Australia or Antarctica...this is just a manifestation of people's "care less" attitude, lack of appreciation, and understanding, of the word, "fidelity." It can happen to women and men alike. The number may be staggering but really it doesn't matter who cheats (more) because, it takes two to tango. Relationships have to be nurtured like plants in order to grow and blossom, and this can not be done your or your partner alone alone or by simply watching Oprah or reading relationships, self-help books, or relying on yourselves.

Reason why couples easily give up and abandon their relationships or partners is not because their partners become unattractive or inattentive, or someone is more attractive or more caring...it is because they lack motivation and "inspiration" from an unworldly, non-material, non-human being that is GOD...they lack so-called Christian values that should help them persevere in the relationship while things are slowly being fixed...they lack humility to correct themselves and accept their faults, and patience to allow circumstances no matter how hard or painful, to mold them, and make them better persons for each other...they lack diligence to do what's right in favor of what's convenient or comfortable, only to find it is (still) not what they're looking for - they love to take shortcuts to get instant gratification...move from one partner to another and still feel empty and useless in the end...

It's not your money, your intelligence, your sexy body, your friends, your achievements, or how good you are that makes you or your partner stay in a relationship. It is caring and mutual understanding of each others' needs and the willingness to go extra mile to give the relationship some fine tuning, AND active involvement of God in your relationship.

If your relationship must last and prosper, God must be in the center - not your best buddy or friend, not your mother or father, not your aunt or uncle, not your relationship book or counselor, not your dog. If you have God in your lives, you will have a strong weapon to combat temptations and more tools to attend to the needs of your partner. It will be easier for you to humbly accept your mistakes and strive to improve yourself before improving your partner. Charity begins at home so start with yourself.

Pray together, pray for each other: don't let the circular, busy, "me-me" world take your time away from each other and from God. If He can create the world and the universe and make possible your existence...there's no reason why he can't handle all your troubles, or your wishes and dreams...if you just let him in to your life... Go to church on Sundays and hear sermons...train yourselves to hear the word of God and apply his instructions... try not to do it on your own because frankly speaking, without God we are nothing....if relationships fail it's either it was not the person God meant for you, or you were being hard-headed.

We are all created equal, no one gender has more inclination to cheat than the other. It's all about understanding what makes one cheat and what will help him or her recover or, not to cheat at all.

Australia must deal extensively on this matter, but really it is a heads up for all of us regardless of origin.

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Mellowmasher, thank you for the uplifting news.

 

[ComKid]

7 women out of 10 cheat their husband

First.......i didn't know Australian men could have 10 wives.

Second......I thought 7 out of 10 only happened to Osama bin laden. lol

Third......I am not sure I could satisfy all 10 wives if I had that many....so it's no wonder they'd wanna stray. kidding. .....I could! :lala:

 

[twomoon]

Now I know, in what country I want to live

 

[Keral_Patel]

Well I don't have any issues like this but from whatever I learned so far I know one thing that "Life is never beautiful" So whoever said that it is.... then LOL at him.

Everyone has some issues. I think God was bored so he created us and now we all are ways of entertaining him Somewhere God is laughing on all of us :D