On the verge of insanity.

[Robert Allen]

In the last 3 days, i have had 4 bad road rage incidents. 3 times where i have lost my temper.

Yesterday i had a near miss with another scooter who was driving the wrong up a street.

I am tired, fed up and annoyed.

I am broke, my scooter has started to die (which means i need a new one, or pay the cost of repairing, which is way over £200). My cousin is in hospital, his girlfriend has been kicked out of college.

My cousins best mate has been sciving off college.

I am getting harrassed by insensitive chavs at all Estates in my town, i nearly had a fight with someone on monday, nearly had a fight with someone yesterday.

My mum is also broke, and we may lose our house if we are not careful.

She will not pay for anything to help me.

Last week i created a roadblock in a 1way street.

I cannot even afford the prices of petrol...

I only just have a internet connection. I may have to sell my laptop and the rest of my internet stuff.

Reading the news makes me depressed. Whenever i login to MSN i get harassed by a bunch of chavs, who "add me" into convos.

I lost my girlfriend last week.

Umm ye...and my mums car has an oil leak in her car..

I have never ever in my life been so angry, fed up and cheesed off...right now i wish i was dead.

If much more goes wrong...i will be pushed off the edge..which i am already close to.

Rob

 

[TT]

Take a deep breath....

It could be worse... Someone could be charging your credit card to find your lost girlfriend... LOL

Trying to make ya smile... Look at the positive

 

[Gene]

Looks to me like you have lots of potential to improve. Your life will move in the direction you're focusing on. Focus on the negative, that's the path your life will take. Focus on the positive, your life will follow that path. So now that you've told the world about all your troubles, may I suggest you create another post telling the world of all the positive aspects of your life? Then keep focused on improvement. It will do wonders for you.

You have an internet connection. You have a WORLD of opportunity. Learn programming. Learn website development. Even doing simple things like writing articles can bring you a lot of extra cash every week. You've proven to me you can write well enough. So what's holding you back? There are thousands of web developers craving new, fresh content. You have eager customers waiting. There is no reason to be crying about money. Stop worrying about other's actions. You can only control your own. Get busy!

 

[Robert Allen]

Gene, there is nothing to be positive about. If there was something positive i would have written it...

I am failing at college. I failed at school.

Rob

 

[Morph]

You're healthy young and smart.

“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”

 

[Michelle Ü]

awww! sorry to hear all these but like what Gene said, try to turn it all into positive. this are all trials in life that we have to prove that we can do it. think of the positivity you will gain when you will be able to get over all these

 

[Gene]

Gene, there is nothing to be positive about. If there was something positive i would have written it...

I am failing at college. I failed at school.

Rob

There's a LOT to be positive about. You're just refusing to see it. You failed at college. Whoopty doo. Lots of people fail at college. And lots of people never have the opportunity to fail at college. What does that have to do with what you CAN do?

Just from your initial post, I can start your list of positives for you:

1) You're alive.
2) You have a mom who's alive. Many people don't.
3) You have a home. Many people don't.
4) You have writing skills.
5) You have tools to launch yourself into success (internet).
6) You have a free support system right here.
7) You've made mistakes you can learn from.

Rob, I can sympathize with how you might 'feel' when the world seems to be crashing in on you. But you have the choice to stand up and do something about it. The first thing to do is simply choose the right path.

If you tried, I'm sure you could add a hundred more things to the 'positive' list. Don't dwell in the negative, unless that's how you want your life to be.

You can do it.

 

[jido]

Ignore the insensitive chavs. They have their own problems, housing, girlfriends, petrol. They want to pass them on.

Don't let anyone talk you down, you are worth more than that. What you have inside is your real value.

If you need to sell the internet gear off do it. Use a public library or a cybercafe.

Look outside the window. If it is sunny sit or walk outside for 5 minutes to get the sunIight in. It helps with your take on the world, optimistic vs pessimistic.

 

[lpstong]

Hi Robert,

I read this thread a few hours earlier today. But wanted to think of a reasonable reply that may be proper in your situation. Gene pretty much covered a slew of things for you that I solidly agree with. Gene did a great job.

And I know somewhere you want answers and relief, who wouldnt. I can relate and understand how you feel. I had moments like yours in my life about 19 years ago.

But I was browsing through some you tube videos for a reaction essay I have to do on a media related item, and decided to let my mind wonder through some music I listened to in the early and mid '80s. I came across an awesome song for a moment like this that is perfect and had a positive message of holding on. Its by R.E.M.

R.E.M. - Everybody Hurts

So hold on. Life will get better. Today is today, Tomorrow will be tomorrow. The future is all yours.

 

[Michelle]

Not sure if you have heard of the saying

Is the glass half full or half empty?

Basically just means how do you look at life

Sorry to be harsh but the reality is... Nobody is gonna walk right up to you with a magic pill to make you happy, money, new bike etc so YOU are gonna have to get up and do something

Gene is right, there are so many things you do already have but are blinded by want you dont.

First off you are alive and this is not a test run. Its the real thing. You only get one shot of it and its up to YOU what you get out of it.

I get the feeling that it really does not matter what any of us here say.. but you really need to take a deep look inside yourself .. pull yourself up dust yourself off and try again and again until you find happiness.

Take care and I truely hope you can use the negative energy you have and turn it around.

 

[psalzmann]

If much more goes wrong...i will be pushed off the edge..which i am already close to.

Rob,

It's hard to write something to someone without fully knowing them, well for me anyways. However, Hi Rob, I'm Peter.

I'm going to agree with the rest of the fella's above but will also tell you something you might not want to hear:

You need a job. Plain and simple.

If you had a job, you could:

1. Help your mother split on the mortage !!
2. Fix your scooter, ride a bike or buy/lease a new car !!
3. Rekindle the flame with your girlfriend

Everything else (I guarantee) will fall into place.

Keep your head up high. You'll have other issues to worry about when you get older. Trust me.

 

[Keral_Patel]

Your problems are better then mine

I had a very bad last month. All I did was just let it pass by. Slowly and steadily all my problems sorted out.

 

[Sabre]

If you want to save money, why not cycle? It would be much cheaper.
Block the people you don't want to know on MSN.
Do you work or go to college? If you work, see if you can find a job with better pay or take a course to improve your qualifications so you can get a better job. If you go to college, get a part time job, it is easy enough to balance work, school work and a limited social life.

And chavs will be chavs. Nothing you can do about it

 

[Barrucadu]

My mum is also broke, and we may lose our house if we are not careful.

She will not pay for anything to help me.

Don't you think that's a little selfish? She has money troubles of her own yet you complain when she dosn't help you financially.

 

[Xyzer]

Life will brighten up mate.

My parents don't pay for me much, but I just get on with it. Sorry.

 

[Michelle]

Robert can you let us know how you are doing ???

 

[Peter]

I am tired, fed up and annoyed.

When I am like that I like to go to a concert or something like that. It enables me to get rid of my frustration. Think of something that you like doing and do it. It will hopefully help you relax.

My cousin is in hospital, his girlfriend has been kicked out of college.

My cousins best mate has been sciving off college.

Why does it bother you that your cousins girlfriend has been kicked out of college and that his best mate is sciving? Leave them too it, they are the ones that will suffer in the end for it, concentrate on what you have to do yourself.

I am getting harrassed by insensitive chavs at all Estates in my town, i nearly had a fight with someone on monday, nearly had a fight with someone yesterday.

Unfortunately there are many people that have nothing better to do than try and bring others down to their level (I know I had worked with many for the last 9 years). Either ignore them or stay away from them. Just remember if they are trying to bring you down they are probably trying to make themselves feel good, they have problems themselves and that is their misguided way of making themselves feel better.

My mum is also broke, and we may lose our house if we are not careful.

She will not pay for anything to help me.

Unfortunately if your mum is broke then there is not much she will be able to pay for that will help. Remember your mum will have her own worries as well. If she could I am sure she would help you. Remember where there is a will there is a way, maybe try and find ways you can make the money yo get what you need. Possibly even talk with people at the college they should have people who can help with such things.

Reading the news makes me depressed. Whenever i login to MSN i get harassed by a bunch of chavs, who "add me" into convos.

Quite simple either do not turn on msn or do what I did, anyone that does that just block them. I was plagued by immature people some time ago and I was constantly getting added to such conversations so I simply blocked and deleted them.

I lost my girlfriend last week.

These things happen give it time and someone else will come along. While you are single enjoy it while it lasts before the next nagging girlfriend comes along :hehe:

Umm ye...and my mums car has an oil leak in her car..

It just shows that your mum has other worries herself at the moment.

Everyone has times when they are pushed to the limits. It is just something that you will learn to deal with. As Gene says there will be positives there but because of all the negatives you will not be seeing them. Things will get betters you just need to ride out the bad times.

Don't be too concerned on what others are doing. Be a bit selfish and look after number 1 for a while. You are the only person that is going too.

 

[ammo]

Hey!

Ive felt just liek you before I know how horrible it is but you can pull through honestly! We both live in cornwall where abouts to do you live? im down in camborne!

Whats up with the scooter? It probably can be fixed for less then that!

Just look at the upside! you can pull through! Best of luck!

 

[nstalk]

Robert...I strongly recommend you read the book, Think And Grow Rich By Napoleon Hill. I'll tell you a story you may not believe but I swear its the truth. I read this book sometimes in the early 80's....I think about 1982. After reading and giving it much serious thought I decided to do everything I could to change my life for the better. I borrowed $6500 from a local credit union and bought a fixer-upper rental house which I soon sold for $23000. I then began to buy home equities and assume the remaining mortgages on some better homes. I eventually owned about 20 real estate properties.

To make a long story short, in 1994 I built a $700,000 home in the Florida Keys and retired from a full time civil service job which I had worked on for over 20 years. Starting with nothing I had accumulated enough income from owner held mortgages to make my early retirement possible only 12 years after reading Think And Grow Rich By Napoleon Hill. I would never have done it with out that book.

Please don't think success is possible without hard work. I worked full time on my regular job and most evenings on my part time job. I also worked every weekend for those 12 years. I seldom took a day off. But, I'll tell you this....I was determined to be successful and accomplish my goal. I enjoyed the work knowing I was doing something worthwhile for my family....and myself.

I encourage you to do the same thing.....it doesn't have to be in real estate. I chose real estate because I like doing home repairs. You need to choose something you would like to do....make the effort....make it happen...good luck to you.

 

[labrocca]

Sounds like a maturity issue. Either you deal properly with adult problems or you don't. That's what seperates the losers from the winners. Pull yourself together.