Is it OK 4 the person you're dating to spend time w/some1 who was attracted to them??

[Vito]

Ok, So I saw this website promoted right here in a thread recently...
Ask 500 people.
It always stuck in my mind so I recently submitted a question and wanted to see how long it would take for the question to actualy reach 500 people,
or if it even would reach 500 people.

The question I submitted is...
Is it OK for the person you're dating to spend lots of time w/someone who was once very attracted to them?

Ask500 - Is it OK for the person you're dating to spend lots of time w/someone who was once very attracted to them?

Whether the question even gets 500 views or not, who knows...

But If you get a chance stop on over there and check it out.
It looks like a simple site, but yet a very creative and cool concept.

Plus, I actually am very interested in the outcome of the vote.
My belief is most guys would say No, and most girls would say Yes???

You are more than welcome to comment on this question here in this thread also.

Thanks.

 

[leonardwilliamson]

NO! I don't want my girl to be giving special attention to somebody else. So it's a big no no no.

 

[liquidcherry]

Just tried to post there and i had to sign up what didn't work so i will post my answer here

It would be ok if that girl has some secret listening device planted(secret surgery to put it under her skin or somewhere else!) lol..maybe combined with a GPS

Sorry you have to go through this stage of a relationship(i saw your username there, concernedbf)<--- i assume

It is always a blow to the trust level in a relationship(being there, it ended up in a nasty, but no violent breakup) but in the end YOU have to talk to her and express your concerns, if she is really into you and not the EX she would understand and don't meet him any longer(or would allow you to be there what would make the listening device obsolete lol)

Hang in there Bro!

Cheers

Liquid

 

[Vito]

It would be ok if that girl has some secret listening device planted(secret surgery to put it under her skin or somewhere else!) lol..maybe combined with a GPS

That would be Perfect! :lol:

Thx Liquid.

 

[ComKid]

Depends on if it's another girl......if she's cute.... and if she doesn't mind being video taped and put on the internet.:lol: kidding

 

[Jessica_ph]

Is it OK for the person you're dating to spend lots of time w/someone who was once very attracted to them?

Why should it be ok? Unless the person is a pastor, terribly sick or in the cemetery.

If you're dating with him or her, he should spend more time with you.

If you're entertaining the notion that it is ok for someone you're interested in to be spending time with somebody else, then, either you don't really like the person or you're planning to do the same in the future...in that case, you're not really serious in your relationship or you don't intend to bring it to the next level.

 

[Dirky47]

Well, if you are not committed to each other then, both of you has the freedom to date other people whether its attracted to you or not.

 

[andr69]

I can't approve such behaviour - it is completely dissolute!

 

[mwzd]

"Lots of time" - no. "Meet" - sure.

Guess its a question of degree here, not of kind.

If your gf is spending way too much time with someone who had/has a crush on her, pay her back in her own coin and see how her 'tolerant' nature goes out the window. imho.

 

[enlytend]

Define "lots of time". How's the time being spent? And was this attraction mutual?

No harm in her spending SOME time in some non-relationship type of activity with somebody who used to have a crush on her as long as nobody takes it any further.

Spending more time with them than with you = not a good sign.

 

[Gerrit]

I see no issues with it when the attraction isn't mutual. If my girl (I am single but I try to think how I'd react if I had a girlfriend) spends some time with others, I would probably feel a bit left out and rather have the "me and my girl and nobody else" scenario. However, if she does meet others now and then, then I don't care if it was an ex boyfriend, a guy who fancied her, ... as long as she is loyal to our relationship. You gotta trust each other a bit. It's not because the other guy is attracted to her, that she cannot meet him just as friends. In a way it's a sign of not trusting each other when such things become problematic.