Sound like you are accepting your situation..only thing that I can share is the two major lessons that I learned from my divorce
(a) never badmouth the x in front of the kids
(b) Kids shouldn't be used a "pawns" during and after divorce..
Sorry to hear that happened to you, man, it's much tougher on children with her condition
Some of what you described, advances have been made in treating those disorders w/drugs, I work with some pharma sales reps sometimes and Zyprexa, Depakote and Cymbalta seem to have made these conditions easier to live with, they don't work for all people but I wonder if she may have tried some of those meds
Good luck anyway, tough situation all around
ps - if I need work done for any of what you advertise here I'll let you know
Thanks mate, I appreciate it. I have moved on, sometimes you just have to let go. I am going to just play fair at court and try to get us both on a healthier path for the kids, not sure if she will cooperate but will try.