If he's offering up lengthy opinions based on theory, that are contradicted by my personal experience, I will post my contrary opinion. If this offends him or others, then we all might as well just accept everything everyone posts here at face value and not discuss it.
Speaking of lengthy,
Your post was 422 words.
Bob's was 375 words.
I know it's not a word measuring competition. And the size of a post isn't a dependent variable equating to quality.
Nor is ones stamina a dependent variable to quality. But in terms of discussion, it helps carry it on, similar to how as quality does.
But length of post + stamina = effort. And it's hard to fault somebody who's giving their best effort. Because, should they not give up, over time their efforts will blossom into experience that we all can benefit from. As they may not have been the subject matter expert when they began, years of lengthy posts and continued discussion can lead to ones becoming.
The end goal is to make us all better domainers. Sometimes criticism is part of that process.
Per the
namePros expectations for respect and constructiveness
Criticism and debate is certainly permitted--even encouraged--but we will not allow members to thrive purely on hatred and disdain.
IMO, and to put in sports talk, I see criticism like defense to one's offense. If you want to be a better offensive [insert sport here] player in the world, you have to be willing to go up against better defensive [insert sport here] players. Otherwise, how will you get better? Or, how will you know you're getting better? Or what happens when you find out you're not as good as you thought you were? Thinking you're the best COD player in the world, only to realize you were playing against n00bs your entire gaming career.
There is always the ignore button. But you will miss some of the "flavor" of this diverse community by using it.
When it comes to criticism, or the nP flavor, I think the report button is equally important as the ignore button, when it reaches that point.
I don't mean that in a way to use the report button when somebody is criticizing you, but if it violates rule 1.2.
1.2. Be
professional, tactful, and constructive at all times. Do not harass, threaten, attack, instigate, insult, or antagonize others.
Mods will assess the report and assess the reported contented based on
Assessment criteria
These criteria are soft guidelines for moderators. Assessment is subjective, and discussion between staff members is encouraged. Users could be assessed based on criteria not listed here. We've published the criteria so that members will have a better idea of the factors we consider.
Content has been notably:
- accusatory: repeatedly makes negative claims regarding the integrity of other entities
- defensive: objects harshly to any criticism or counter-arguments; often accuses others of being hypocritical
- destructive: lacking helpful information, such as a list of improvements that can be made
- antagonizing: tends to initiate cycle of hostility
- controversial: other members have objected to the presentation of content, rather than the views it expresses
- offensive: worded so as to offend another entity where a less offensive approach could be taken
- disrespectful: presented in a manner that lacks regard for the feelings and efforts of others; unnecessarily blunt
- unprofessional: ignores standard rules of etiquette when communicating publicly
- reported: repeatedly reported by other members
- unforgiving: accusations often reference past incidents that have been largely forgotten or forgiven by the community
- stubborn: establishes opinion as fact and regards differing views as offensive
- aggressive: tends to increase the level of hostility in a debate
- retaliative: continues cycles of attacks
Content lacks:
- usefulness: does not contribute to discussion in a positive way
- understanding: disregards the differing views of others
- tact: apparent lack of effort to word opinions respectfully
- self-control: user loses temper easily or fails to remain calm when attacked
If the criticism you're receiving is not in violation of the rules, and you're still offended, maybe you should ask more questions. Specific questions. Even if it's a simple question. Such as Why this? Or What do you mean by that?
Some might say that asking these simple questions is trolling. But when you're dumbfounded to somebody else's opinion, you have to be open to the possibility that you're misunderstanding them, or they're misunderstanding themselves. So you take it back to grade school. And check their work. Step by step. Comparing your notes with theirs. Ensuring the validity of yours and their results. To see what went wrong, and why your
math doesn't match theirs.
Stamina plays a big role on how much of others opinion you want to put up with, and try to understand. Then comes the is this the best use of your time debate of trying to understand somebody's opinion that has a greater chance of adding value to you, versus endless debates with somebody that will likely violate nP rules many times long before adding value to you.
How to know who's criticism to accept and who's to ignore?
That's the hard part. As even the best could overlook something obvious to the worst. And why it's probably best to keep all the nP flavor you can.
But when a true pro gives you criticism, with respect, I think accepting it and challenging it leads to the growth of not only you, and the pro, but others in the community reading it.
Opposed, to maybe the stubborned member, who is set in their position, a position which you grossly disagree with, feel you'd be better off not wasting your time reading their content, and come to the time benefit best experience over maximum flavor decision to block. The question remains, how long do you have to disagree with someone or how much time do you have to waste reading disagreeable content, before giving up on that member, and blocking them from your nP flavors.
Ok, I've ranted long enough. And all this flavor talk has me thinking of Doritos. And I don't have Doritos. This rant is also making me realize my overuse of 'and' at the beginning of sentences. If you've read this far, please enjoy the below video on criticism, which I feel is a fitting zoomed out relative perspective to online criticism.
