I need some advice

[user-7256]

Hey all,

I got a girlfriend today... I feel wierd saying it since I've always been anti-social but I guess it's true :tu: Anyway, I need some advice, it's my first one.

Now what? Lol.

I guess we're "going out" as that's what she asked... I said yes, but what does "going out" really mean?

What do I do now?

Please be realistic, don't be stupid, you're talking to a person with the social skills of a 5th or 6th grader here... well at least they're NOT GOOD, lemme put it that way. Well she said she didn't care that my social skills were bad, so that's good I guess?

Thanks,
-Matt
(I feel REALLY stupid asking this)

 

[edmarriner]

hi,

The phrase "going out" does'nt really you have physicaly got to go out somewhere. When people say this it can give the impression its a kind of date but it not.

Dont worry if your social skills are the best, if she asked you out then she must like you for who you are.

To start with you have just to try and talk to her when ever you she her, well not all the time but more often you would have. thats you really need to do to start off with. Let her lead the relationship if your worried.


hope it goes well for you.


thanks,

-ed

 

[will7]

Well, I don't actually have a girlfriend, so, take my advice with a pinch of salt But, I feel that Edward is right, "going out" doesn't necessarily mean that you have to be going out on dates every night! Lots of people at my school who have girlfriends/boyfriends merely just go round to each others houses and spend time together.

Maybe go round to hers (or have her come round to yours) and spend some time with her, watch some TV, talk etc. Obviously, maybe go out on a date once in a while - take her to the cinema, take her shopping :lol: and other things amongst - but don't make it so that she's only with you because you take her out all the time - she should be with you because she likes you as a person and, if she enjoys just spending time with you, then the chances are she does like you.

Well, as I said, my advice could be complete crap for all I know, but I'm sure I'll be putting it into practice myself soon but, take it as you wish.

Good luck and I hope you have a happy relationship together

 

[The-YoungLat]

Well i do have a girlfriend that i agree with ED, and will becasue in a relationship is not if you are good with social skills but with if you two like each other give time to get to know the person if you already know a lot about her just let her see what are your feelings for her and keep your head up.

Regards,
-Nata

 

[smub]

well, i have been going out with different girls lately, so consider me a P.I.M.P :hehe:

well what a girl like is give her attention and dont talk toooo much with other girls, take her to movies, and etc. Go to beach hang out and stuff.

Good luck Matt

 

[firestorm]

Well this is the first time I've ever seen a post like this. You just need to lighten up a bit and go with the flow. No need to be "anti-social". Go to the movies with her after a while or maybe sit with her during lunch. Just be yourself and don't stare at other chicks when she is around. Practice makes perfect. The first one almost never works out. Good luck and prove me wrong though .

-fire

 

[sonyking]

since its your first time try to make a good impression so when or if you do brreak up she wont spread roomers about you

 

[user-7256]

Okay, good advice.

I neglected to mention I can't date until I'm 16... which is fine for me.

Anyway, thanks for the tips, I'll work on em.

 

[edmarriner]

Does she have any kind of instant messanger ? I talk talk to my girlfriend over msn alot, or you could use the phone. Even email. If you dont think that you will be allowed to go on a date with you need to keep in contact with her out of school hours to show your well kinda thinking of her. i dont actully see my girlfriend out of school that much but we talk over msn ( for a few hours aday , lol ) .

(PS: sorry i didnt really explain that very well did i )


thanks,

-ed

 

[Joe]

i have no expirience to share...
although i must say
ROCK ON MATT
:blush: i'm glad it all worked out!

Joe

 

[user-7256]

Lol thanks Joseph.

Ed: I have a similar situation... only see her for 5-10 minutes before school each day - if I'm lucky... otherwise all she does is phone and AIM :D And yes, for a few hours a day as well... she's so funny!

 

[will7]

Maybe go back to her place every one in a while after school? Just to spend some time with her and get to know her a bit more ...

 

[user-7256]

Well I can't go over alone...

 

[Sabre]

Okay, good advice.

I neglected to mention I can't date until I'm 16... which is fine for me.

Anyway, thanks for the tips, I'll work on em.

Why not?

 

[user-7256]

Parents' rule, I agree with it... also a religious standard. Keeps most of our church's youth out of trouble

 

[will7]

Well I can't go over alone...

Why can't you go alone?

 

[user-7256]

Parents' rule again

Well nevermind this... for some reason last night she just got real quiet in the middle of our phone convo ... and this morning, she said she'd meet me by the cafeteria at school at 7:10... she didn't show up unti. 7:25, and she was with another guy and completely ignored me

I don't know what I did wrong....

 

[Humdizzy]

If you know solidly that you are going out you have to go over and take control. Kind of act like you're trying to take her away from the guy. Be like rude, but then if he kind of catches on and actually responds to you pulling her away just be like what are you talking about. Just be careful the guy isn't one of her good friends.

 

[user-7256]

I can't be rude.... it's not in my nature...

 

[eh-stevo]

Same with me, I'd like to get all angry and be like " all up in their face " - but its just not me.

At least you have the courage to ask a girl out, I give you credit. And good luck with this =)