You know when...

[Matthew.]

You know when words are not quite enough to express how in bloody angry you are?

OK I'll explain, I was due to due a sponsored skydive with someone in aid of a cerebral palsy charity near us. The reason why is that she has wanted to do something for years just to raise some money or to feel like shes done some good as her brother (her twin) has cerebral palsy, so when this came up she jumped at the chance. Of course i wasn't going to say no to doing it, I've always wanted to do something like this and she's a good friend so I would be great helping her out.

Long story short, I've gone to ask my parents and i got the reaction i expected: When im 18 i can do what i want, but until then he controls every ****ing aspect of my life.

It's a 2 mile dive, 35 seconds air time maximum minus chute time and the place i would be doing it has an excellent reputation (an excuse my parents used was that last year a guy with an OCD killed himself by cutting the parachute). I would be raising all the money myself and frankly it would probably make my year since it would be shortly after the exam period.

I can understand why they won't let me, well i don't, I don't because my attitude towards things like this is completely difference, whether it's because I'm young or because I just have a different outlook on life as i believe who knows. Of course they would be worried, but what the hell happened to living a little?

Sorry to post this, I'm sure you don't want to read about my problems but most people who i could let this off too have gone to bed and I can't face talking to the person who i was doing with atm...i don't know whether i feel more disgusted with myself for actually wanting to help someone or at my parents. Either way, life lesson learnt huh? Be prepared for a nice kick in the balls should you ever want to help anyone.

It makes it worse that she can't do it without me, there's no one else who would be willing to do it that's got the balls to do it (i don't say that to 'big myself up' - just being honest)

This mix of intense guilt and anger is....fantastic I'll give it that. I've never been so frustrated in my life...certainly helped put a few things into perspective.

Matt

 

[Skinny]

Hmm Matt . . .seems like your going through a frustrating time.

I don't really have the solution for you, but I know how it feels. I commend you for wanting to do good.

From their perspective, they don't want to lose you in some freak accident.

The only thing I could possibly suggest is to maybe have someone who skydives (or the team that helps them out) talk to your parents about what is involved.

Maybe you can help in finding someone else (you said no one is up for it), but maybe talk to people you don't know at school who might be interested.

I hope this helps.

Skinny

 

[Matthew.]

Thanks Skinny, Yeah don't worry i didn't post here for an answer, it was more to let off some steam heh. Had there been anyone around tonight it wouldn't have come to me posting on a forum full of people I actually don't know (no offence, just the mood im in right now to make comments like that )

I understand where they are coming from, it just frustrates me that no one knows how to live anymore. I have always been very....open....about the concept of me dying, i know it sounds moronic but that's how I've always been. If i died tomorrow, some people would be sad....i wouldn't....i would be dead. And while I don't want anyone to be saddened by the fact I'm dead...that's not what i would be thinking about if that makes sense.

I'm not stupid enough to take unbalanced risks that what I'm trying to put across without sounding immature - for example i don't like people following me when i cross the road because I'll always go just that few seconds before everyone else even if it does seem risky. I know i know, silly, but that's me.

Arggh, just so.....intensely frustrated right now. I'm not feeling sorry because I don't get to do it, i would love to but that's not the point. I genuinely want to help this person out because i care about her (I don't "CARE" about her - i know what you're thinking :hehe: - like i friend i mean.)

I think I give up for tonight, I've got work to do but I'm just sitting up feel more guilty....heh

edit: As for finding someone else, the entire thing has to be submitted in 2 days i think...i don't think there's time not while we're on holiday.


Matt

 

[UneekTT]

I have 3 kids, and I am not looking forward to going through this kind of thing as they will grow up someday soon.

Bottom line is, they are your Parents and you have to respect what they say, but if it was me, I would go do it anyway - lol, you are helping and not hurting, that is a good thing whether they see it that way or not. IMO

Best of Luck to you!

 

[Nashfan]

Bottom line is, they are your Parents and you have to respect what they say, but if it was me, I would go do it anyway - lol, you are helping and not hurting, that is a good thing whether they see it that way or not. IMO

I strongly disagree. Whether the act itself is right or wrong, if he disobeys his parents, it becomes wrong. And if you decide when to follow your parents and when not to, why have them at all?

 

[mis_chiff]

I have 3 kids

Bottom line is, they are your Parents and you have to respect what they say, but if it was me, I would go do it anyway - lol, you are helping and not hurting, IMO

Surprised to read that comment from a parent,
Imagine if something happened and your parents didn't know
you were there...

Matt,
If my daughter came to me and asked if she could do something like
this, my first response would have been a firm NO! (It's a parent thing)
She would have explained it to me, and tried to make me understand.
But all I hear is "my child want's to jump out of a frigging plane - OMG!"
and in your words

It's a 2 mile dive, 35 seconds air time maximum

It takes 1 second...just 1!

BUT....she always came back to me after I said no a few times, ( I just lifted my hand and said shhsh no more) away she'd go...15 mins later she was back. After awhile I realised she's not going to stop until I hear her out.
(there was no yelling or anything)
She would sit me down and MAKE me understand why SHE wanted to do it!
and how it was all about choices and how she wanted to do something to help her friend who was helping another friend, how she knew it was
dangerous (played that light, but I'm her mom :lol: I knew)
and then she went on about how well I had raised her, and how she
was aware of dangers and how I taught her to be careful , and how
I also taught her to help those who need it! After that, she had me...
because she was right...I did raise her and if I can't trust her to make
her own choices, what's the point?

Maybe go talk to them again Matt, sit them down, ask them to hear you out before they say anything...tell them it's something you really want to do, explain why...when you see your reaching them...tell them to discuss it between themselves. But to be open minded...
Who know's maybe when they hear your passion they'll reconsider...

I know if I was your mom and I read that...I'd let you do it! I would be scared and nervous till I knew you were back on the ground...but you convinced me of how much you really want to do it, for the right reasons