Car Speeding

[lpxxfaintxx]

My brother drives me to places a lot of the times, but he tends to speed a lot. One time he went 110 MPH on the highway, which almost made me pee my pants. He also drives with one hand on the wheel most of the time. I know speeding is very dangerous, but really how dangerous is it? Is there any way to convince my brother to speed less? I'm starting to get worried about him, as it's starting to become a habit. To be honest, I hate getting in a car with my brother.

 

[000]

Well if worse comes to worse, perhaps it would be good to discuss the matter with your parent(s). Might not be the easiest solution, as your brother may feel that you're "ratting" on him...but speeding is dangerous and is unsafe for both your brother and his passengers.

Not to say that I'm not guilty of speeding, because I almost always go well over the speed limit when I'm alone. I try to be much safer when carrying passengers, however, because the last thing I want is for someone to be injured or killed because of my carelessness. That is not something that I would want to bear on my shoulders for the rest of my life...

 

[Jim_]

Have you tried asking him to slow down? Make sure ask him in a serious manner and express your concern.

If he doesn't listen, consult your parents about it, but be ready to lose your ride.

 

[lpxxfaintxx]

That's a big problem for me... My brother and I aren't very close. We barely talk. I guess I can say I'm scared to talk to him about this issue.

 

[Jim_]

Well, I think it's unavoidable. Which are you scared of more? Talking with your brother or being in the car with him?

 

[Humdizzy]

I've dealt with friends who are fast drivers for years ever since I was little and my next door neighbor who was a teen would be picking me up from middle school. You develop a passion for it though after a while which I have. I somewhat put too much trust in the driving experience of everyone I know.

I would say learn to love it or don't get in the car with him ever again. There is no way to change the way a person drives, because when it comes to driving everyone thinks they're the best there is on the road.

 

[deleted984054565403]

Maybe you can set it up so that you're away with him when your parents are also out doing errands -- then you can get your parents to react as if they personally witnessed him speeding while they were out.

 

[klm390]

It's going to take awhile for him to learn what always happens to fast/careless drivers. Until then, don't ever get in with him. Someone is going to end up dead or twisted and you can keep it from being you by just not getting in.





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[000]

I'm seeing four options:

1. You talk to your brother about it
2. You talk to your parent(s) about it
3. You stop riding with him (whenever possible)
4. You hold on tight and hope for the best

That's a big problem for me... My brother and I aren't very close. We barely talk. I guess I can say I'm scared to talk to him about this issue.

I would highly suggest at least trying to discuss the issue with your brother...otherwise you've only got three options left.

 

[lpxxfaintxx]

Thanks for the opinions and suggestions all! Wish me luck.

 

[briman1970]

Maybe you can set it up so that you're away with him when your parents are also out doing errands -- then you can get your parents to react as if they personally witnessed him speeding while they were out.

I like this idea. I would also ask for advice from a cop. Just walk into your local pd and ask to speak to a traffic officer. Most officers like to have a distraction from paperwork and would love to give you some creative advice on how to handle the situation.

 

[000]

Just walk into your local pd and ask to speak to a traffic officer. Most officers like to have a distraction from paperwork and would love to give you some creative advice on how to handle the situation.

I like this idea! :lala:

 

[deleted984054565403]

I like this idea. I would also ask for advice from a cop. Just walk into your local pd and ask to speak to a traffic officer. Most officers like to have a distraction from paperwork and would love to give you some creative advice on how to handle the situation.

...unless they set it up so that they stop and wait for him and pull him over, then he tries to outrun them when they have the lights on to pull him over to warn him. :lol:

 

[italiandragon]

110 MPH ?

that`s nothing mate!

I do it all the time (that`s why I get plenty of fines damn )

In Italy with a Friend`s Ferrari 360 I even reached 250 KM/h but that was in private track.

Speeding only is not necessarily dangerous, you can have a car crash and day even at 40 MPH if you don`t know HOW to drive.

But regarding your issue, just tell your brother that you are not going anymore with him unless he drives slower than xx MPH.......you need to decide which fears controls the other one: talking to him or drive fast.

 

[Keith Allen]

I thought you were describing me in this post. I'm always going faster than I should with only one hand on the wheel. What good is speeding if you can't look cool doing it?

Seriously though, if it bothers you that much avoid riding with him for your sake and tell him you're worried about him for his sake.

I'm with Italiandragon though, if you can speed responsibly I wouldn't be too worried about it even though it does heighten the risks of an accident no matter what you do. I know what you're thinking "Speed responsibly?"... Yeah maybe that's not the best word, but there are people who speed, slow down when needed, realize room and not enough room to pass etc. Then there are the idiots who go 100mph weaving in out of lanes barely getting around people and riding peoples bumpers.

 

[italiandragon]

Yeah maybe that's not the best word, but there are people who speed, slow down when needed, realize room and not enough room to pass etc. Then there are the idiots who go 100mph weaving in out of lanes barely getting around people and riding peoples bumpers.

EXACTLY RIGHT

 

[deleted984054565403]

...and I guess that's why there aren't many old people that do that. Speed really doesn't pay.

 

[Fewski]

Is Speeding safe? Yes, and no.

If you can handle the speed AND your car can handle the speed when there arn't really many cars around, it's safe, IMO. But sometimes people think they can handle it when they really can't - thats when stuff happens. Sometimes it's not the driver, but the car itself. I've heard the small trucks (Rangers, S-10's, Frontiers, ect.) are very unstable at high speeds, and some cars are hard to drive at 60 mph.

Way to many variables. But once your brother gets a speeding ticket, I'm sure he'll slow down.

 

[UneekTT]

Personally, I like to speed:

But if I had someone in the car that was not comfortable with me going so fast (like my wife every single time she gets into a car with me) I would slow down out of respect for the person that I care about enough to let in my car with me.

If your brother cares about you, he will slow down.

If he does not care about you, then tell your parents that you will NOT get into a car with him again because you value your life, and at high speed things happen VERY quickly!

Best of luck to you

P.S. Yes, that is a real picture and has never been photoshopped, I was out in the middle of nowhere, and I had just purchased brand new wheels and tires.