It's for sure not NamePros' problem here - They did add this rule (where sellers cannot ask buyers to pay the fees or even ask for a personal/family/gift payment) due to two reasons -
1- Buyers started complaining that they shouldn't be paying the fees (even when you send a personal payment, there is some fees involved on the buyers' end).
2- It's against PayPal's TOS.
The bottom line is: Using PayPal in any industry holds some risk - not only in domaining. PayPal is the one that should do something about it for sure.
Even if NamePros took off that rule regarding the personal payment or buyers paying fees, the problem will STILL exist, why?
1- Because even personal payments can be reversed (as when you pay using your credit card, you can always go back to your bank and claim it was not you doing the payment, thus, ending up with a charge back against PayPal which I don't believe PayPal would swallow and move on).
2- PayPal does NOT like personal payment (Personal Experience), Before the rule was set, I used to ask for personal payments all the time (to reduce my cost and fees) , I had my share in auctions then I got contacted by my PayPal's account manager clearly stating that they do NOT like to see personal payments coming in that magnitude and that they will start forcing a NORMAL feel against personal payments if they keep coming. \
Finally, The risk is there, the risk will always be there unless PayPal does something about it - Nothing NamePros can do to fix this.
those are excellent points.
paypal remains world's best, most convienient and simple to use payment system imo.. but not just my opinion.. ~200 million account owners share my view. they can't all be wrong I'm sure
... of course like with any company out there, there will be problems... the problem with problems is that those are the only ones that make frontpages and we hear about. we never hear of all the other deals that went smoothly with paypal.. cause well.. there is nothing to talk about there.
that being said, for domains, obviously paypal is not optimized.
I wish escrow.com would allow paypal payouts to canada (not sure about other countries) then I'd be more inclined to use them. I think ecop.com does.. I may try that. not sure if they eat the loss in case of after-payout chargeback.. like escrow.com/godaddy aucitons does.
as for selling domains with paypal, and minimizing risks.. well.. it may well boil down to going some extrea steps with buyer via email to ensure he pays via paypal balance funds only...
usa based my paypal cashcard may be handy here..
https://www.paypal-cash.com/
or simply funding via their bank account/echeck.
no chargebacks possible there.
and I am not referring to gift payments here. just regular one. with no shipping address.
imo if buyer really wants your domain and on top of it insists on using paypal (there are buyers like this who will also prefer paypal only, this isn't always just about what seller prefers), they will be willing to talk to you and go through extra steps to offer you protection you need (against chargeback) and accomodate you by paying with paypal balance and/or bank... even go as far as to provide you screenshos of their paypal balance etc.. in the end both buyer and seller are in same boat.. buyer wanting some protection for his payment.. and seller wanting protection too.