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opinion The Founder’s Mindset: A New Way to Sell Domains

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Many years ago, I sat at my desk in our home office, staring at my laptop screen. I was in the early stages of launching a new side hustle—a high-end Nigerian men's clothing line specializing in customized dashikis. A dashiki is a colorful garment that covers the top half of the body, worn mostly in West Africa.

Everything was coming together except for one crucial detail: the domain name for my future website. I understood the power of a strong online presence. My brand needed a domain that was catchy, classic, memorable, and professional—a name that would instantly inspire trust and confidence in potential customers.

But there was a problem: I was on a budget. Like most startups, I had to make every dollar count. I spent hours searching through domain listings, carefully narrowing my options to a handful of names. Yet, when I reached out to domain owners, I was met with resistance.

The responses were cold, disinterested, and unhelpful. One owner refused to negotiate, showing no flexibility on price. Another simply ignored my emails. I couldn’t understand why these domain investors didn’t see the bigger picture—why they didn’t recognize the opportunity to be part of something greater than just a transaction.

Frustrated, I wondered: Why weren’t these domain sellers acting like they cared about the businesses they were selling to? Didn’t they realize that a sale wasn’t just about numbers—it was a chance to help a startup founder grow and thrive?

If this scenario sounds familiar, it’s because many domain investors approach sales with a single-minded focus: profit. To them, a domain is just an asset—a piece of digital real estate to be sold at a fixed price with minimal interaction. They expect buyers to meet their asking price without question or negotiation. But what if there was a better way? What if domain investors started thinking like the buyer, like the end user?

When you start seeing your domains through the eyes of your potential buyers, everything changes. Pricing becomes easier. Relationships flourish. And sales start to happen more naturally. In fact, by adopting the buyer’s mindset, even if every inquiry or counteroffer doesn’t lead to a sale, you may be creating a lasting connection—turning a one-time buyer or inquirer into a loyal client who refers others to you.

The Power of Communication, Empathy, and Connection​


When domain investors shift their perspective to think like end users, they realize that business success isn’t just about making a sale—it’s about building relationships. Here’s how communication, empathy, and connection can transform the way domains are sold:

1. Speak Their Language​


Effective communication bridges the gap between a domain investor and an end user. By understanding a buyer’s vision and needs, you can position your domain as a strategic asset rather than just a name. Clear, personalized, and engaging communication fosters trust and helps buyers see the real value of the domain. It’s not just about selling a name; it’s about helping buyers envision how it aligns with their goals.

2. Step Into Their Shoes​


Empathy means seeing things from the buyer’s perspective. What challenges are they facing? What are their hopes for their business? When you take the time to understand your buyers’ industries and aspirations, you can offer relevant domains that truly resonate. Instead of delivering a generic sales pitch, you approach them with insight and genuine interest—building a relationship that goes beyond the transaction.

3. Build Long-Term Relationships​


In business, relationships are everything. Instead of focusing on one-off sales, consider how you can foster long-term partnerships with buyers. Offer post-sale support, share insights about branding, or simply check in to see how their business is growing. This ongoing engagement builds loyalty and opens the door to future opportunities, transforming a simple transaction into a meaningful, mutually beneficial connection.

A New Mindset for a Thriving Business

By adopting a founder’s mindset, domain investors can move beyond transactional selling to become trusted advisors and partners. It’s not just about capitalizing on a one-time deal—it’s about building a sustainable business model fueled by human connection and collaboration. When you start thinking like your buyers, you don’t just sell domains—you help shape the future of businesses, one name at a time.
 
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What incredibly eloquent writing, @Elie Eweka ! Thank you!

I agree with the point you are making, and I think it is too often not fully appreciated in the quest for the big payoff.

I particularly liked your closing lines.
It’s not just about capitalizing on a one-time deal—it’s about building a sustainable business model fueled by human connection and collaboration. When you start thinking like your buyers, you don’t just sell domains—you help shape the future of businesses, one name at a time.

Thank you once more, and best wishes.

Bob
 
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Brother very impactful piece
 
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What incredibly eloquent writing, @Elie Eweka ! Thank you!

I agree with the point you are making, and I think it is too often not fully appreciated in the quest for the big payoff.

I particularly liked your closing lines.


Thank you once more, and best wishes.

Bob
Thank you, Bob, for your thoughtful feedback — it truly means a lot coming from you. Sales are important, but making buyers and end users feel valued is priceless.
 
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Insightful Thought
 
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Thanks for the inspiring post!
 
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Sales are important, but making buyers and end users feel valued is priceless.
Hi

how often does a buyer, tell the seller, that they feel/felt valued?

if anything, a seller, during negotiations, may try to make the buyer feel like they got a great/fair deal,
but from either perspective, it's not a new way to sell a domain.

that's just common courtesy that one may extend to the other, in an effort to make a sale.

imo....
 
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Hi

how often does a buyer, tell the seller, that they feel/felt valued?

if anything, a seller, during negotiations, may try to make the buyer feel like they got a great/fair deal,
but from either perspective, it's not a new way to sell a domain.

that's just common courtesy that one may extend to the other, in an effort to make a sale.

imo....
Definitely customer satisfaction makes the customer want return in the future…
 
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Hi

how often does a buyer, tell the seller, that they feel/felt valued?

if anything, a seller, during negotiations, may try to make the buyer feel like they got a great/fair deal,
but from either perspective, it's not a new way to sell a domain.

that's just common courtesy that one may extend to the other, in an effort to make a sale.

imo....
Thanks for your feedback!
 
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But there was a problem: I was on a budget. Like most startups, I had to make every dollar count. I spent hours searching through domain listings, carefully narrowing my options to a handful of names. Yet, when I reached out to domain owners, I was met with resistance.

The responses were cold, disinterested, and unhelpful. One owner refused to negotiate, showing no flexibility on price. Another simply ignored my emails. I couldn’t understand why these domain investors didn’t see the bigger picture—why they didn’t recognize the opportunity to be part of something greater than just a transaction.
What was your budget, and what was the price of the domains?

Why did you expect these sellers to give you free branding advice, which is a very costly service.
 
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What was your budget, and what was the price of the domains?

Why did you expect these sellers to give you free branding advice, which is a very costly service.
Hi

both of those are very pertinent questions and i'm curious as to what the answers will be.

imo...
 
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There are at least a dozen powerful things happening in your article. Some of them seem contradictory. It's not an 'agree or disagree' kind of article, it's an article where there are many issues of domain buying and selling, and each of those issues needs a lot of discussion - and this is just to note, most or all of these have at some time been discussed here over the years.

As far as domain sellers you've contacted, who you say were not being helpful... we don't know the details, so it's difficult to comment with any relevancy. Perhaps you worded things in a way they found offputting; perhaps it sounded like a scam to them, or a lie to get their good domain for a steal of a price; perhaps your offer was just nowhere near the domain's value, or at least their perceived value of their domain. You know, if I have a domain listed at $25K, and you email me cold and say you are a startup, you are hoping to provide a valuable service to the world, the domain will go to good use, and could you please have the domain for $200, and also can I please give you some help with your project, marketing, branding...

...I'm going to just say 'no', or I'll ignore your email entirely. I've been domaining for about 20 years; do you know how many emails I receive every year, from people who want a domain for a steal of a price, or for free, or for trade... and for me to become part of their project and help them with that, too? - And if the project takes off, THEN I will receive some value for that domain? Also, keep in mind:

Most of them have been liars. Amazing how many domain traders/sellers/investors just outright lie, to try get a domain for cheap or free. It's not just a little bit... it is RAMPANT. I know how to check facts very quickly, even based on the name they give me, the email they use, their IP address, I'm very fast now with all my tools... and they are almost all lying.

Some tell the truth. I find that out very quickly. I do help some. Maybe give them some advice. Maybe a very good price on the domain. My latest sale wasn't actually a sale, ha ha: a person emailed me, wanting to buy one of my lower tier domains for $1K, which would have been a fine price. But I asked them about their project... and my name didn't quite seem to fit perfectly. I did a little thinking and checking, and found a better name for them... free to register! They agreed that it was a much more appropriate name for their project, they thanked me profusely, and they registered that domain for reg fee... rather than buying mine for $1K. I've helped out dozens of people over the years with their domain purchase and businesses, like that.

The honest, legitimate ones are fun to help and to deal with. The huge percentage of liars, sometimes makes it difficult to weed out the good from the bad, the honest from the lying.

My time is valuable, to me. If I get a request, I don't want to go fishing for tons of info. If I see the buyer is legit, with just a minute or two of my checking, then I'll be helpful. If I don't find the 'legit' clues right away - whether the person is legit or not - I'm not going to go deep diving for an hour or two to try find out.

I could write for another hour about that one issue above, but I'll cut it off here.

Another issue is the time/help/partnership/social/whatever thing... some people are into networking, some aren't. Some people are into networking with the type of person you are and the type of project you are starting, and some aren't.

This doesn't make them ignorant or uncaring of what you are doing. This just means they don't feel interested in your 'thing', whatever it is. Like if someone comes along and wants to start talking to me about becoming involved in saving the duckbilled platypus, or about designing a new football jersey for their team, and they want my input, as well as to buy my domains for dirt cheap... doesn't mean I don't care about their wonderful projects, just means I have my own life, my own interests, and I'm already involved with and helping the people, projects, and causes that I'm currently involved with. ***I do not want to randomly become involved with the causes and projects of the dozens or hundreds of people around the world who email me, wanting to buy my domain for cheap, or free, and for me to become involved with their lives.

Some domain sellers might enjoy that. Nothing wrong with it. I don't enjoy becoming involved randomly with everyone's projects. And there's nothing wrong with that, either.

And yet another issue, where you said that it seemed like "domain investors approach sales with a single-minded focus: profit" -- how is that different from you? You are trying to create a startup for... wait for it... profit! To help you, to help your family, your future, to pay your rent, pay for food and necessities, comforts, security, the same thing we all want from our 'profit'.

That's why I sell domains. For profit. To, you know, live and pay my bills. And help the people around me. And help others around the world, when I choose to.

People randomly asking me to sell them a domain for cheap, often much less than I paid for it - which means they don't care if I'm losing money, and basically asking me for charity, to donate the domain to them - is people telling me that I should lose the time and value of my domain, so that they can be helped. And that attitude also tells me that they are thinking quite one-sided - they want my domain, time, expertise to be cheap or free so they can succeed with what they are doing - but they are not thinking about what the loss of that domain's value, of my time and expertise... means to me and my life.

Sorry if this last part sounds a bit angry; I'll be candid and say: I get very tired of domain buyers who email me, want one of my nice domains to be cheap or free simply because they have a 'good project' and are using it to help someone or help the world, and then they swear at me if I don't help them by giving them that domain. They accuse me of not caring. They hope I rot in hell. Ha. Some of those 'nice' buyers turn out to be very, very angry, unfair, manipulative, bitter people, who reek of 'entitlement disease', and become quite violent and judgmental when you do not give them what they want, simply because they ask for it.

Got my own life. If you email me about a domain, and offer a fair price, I'll discuss it with you. I don't want to be part of your startup. If I only owned one domain, then sure, maybe we can talk about your project. But I own hundreds. And many people own thousands. We get emails constantly, emails just like yours. I don't want to be giving hundreds of domains away each year, being part of dozens or hundreds of random new projects each year, and helping dozens or hundreds of people with marketing and branding advice each year.

And I'm still a good person! Ha

As I said, I could comment for hours about the many issues you've written about. Here's a personal one: I don't have that feeling of entitlement that seems to be a plague among so many people of the earth today. That includes about domains. One example:

There was a domain I really, really wanted, for my own personal use to build a site on. Something close to my heart. The name was (and still is) taken in many extensions. The dot com was being used by a very large company for part of their branding, so I figured I'd never be able to get it. But I kept watching and watching... and after about 8 years of watching, I saw they'd let it go. It expired, deleted, was caught by Dropcatch, and the bidding began. And the bidding went high. Then it went higher than I could afford to pay in one shot, so I had to drop out.

I talked to the new owner. I didn't ask for him to give the domain to me for a steal. Didn't say it was for a project to 'help the world' - which it actually was. I respected the amount he payed for it. I respected he needed to profit from it, because that was income to help his own family and his own projects and dreams. We worked out a price, and I payed that amount over a few months of payments... and finally owned the domain! I built a site on it, and I still have that site, 11 years later, helping people.

That's a long way of saying: I'm 'old school', at least in some of the best ways. One of the best, is that I'm willing to be patient, work hard toward something I really want, and I don't have the 'entitlement' of thinking that everyone I contact 'should want to help me' and give me stuff toward my project. I work for it, and am grateful for any help, and gracious and understanding when someone doesn't want to help. I still respect them for it.

When someone contacts me about one of my domains... if I start to smell that 'entitlement' coming from them, where they think I should give them the domain, or at least sell it to them for very cheap, and they start in with the 'you don't care' or 'you're an asshole' if I don't help them... I come in from the other angle. I say, "How much do you want this name for your project? I'm willing to work with you a little on price; but the important question is how hard are you willing to work to get it? If you just want people to hand you stuff for free, and then you start blaming them or insulting them if they don't hand it to you... what does that say about you and your project?"

See? You've kicked the hornet's nest. Not just a question of whether sellers should help you or not... more like: everyone wants a domain for their project, why should I single you out to sell my domain to cheap, and lose money that I need for my own life? Why should I spend my life's time and energy on helping you randomly, when I'm already helping those who need me and who are in my life right now, and helping those I actively seek out to help? How much help do you really want, and why? And, like others above, I'd like to know amounts... how much are they asking for the domain, and how much did you offer? And how did you word things? And how respectful were you of their 'no'? And... about a hundred other questions :)

You wrote a thoughtful article... but it sounds like it's coming from someone who is thinking like a victim, like they have a feeling of entitlement to be given domains and help, and that the people you approach should automatically want to network with you and help you and become a part of your life and project... without any understanding of how it comes across to the many domain sellers you are approaching. We receive emails from people like you CONSTANTLY.

Sometimes, it feels right for me to dig in a little and help. Most of the time, it's "Look, what kind of a price range can we meet at?" - but if they want me to give the domain to them, then I'll say, "Sorry, you'll have to look into other options." And if they give me flak about not caring, and about their project failing because I won't help them, I'll say - and pay attention, this is very, VERY important and relevant: - "A domain is just part of the marketing. If you think your project will fail simply because you don't use my domain, then your project has no strength and no chance anyway."

A great domain can help a great project, yes; and a crappy domain can hurt a great project, yes; but this just means that, if you can't get my great domain for your project, then you need to go looking for another great domain for it. That's marketing 101. Other marketing 101: if you cannot get ANY great domain, because your budget is too low to buy high quality domains... then re-think your branding, so that you can invent your own great name, and register the domain at reg fee. It still happens all the time :)

Wait... don't get me started... did I really just write all that? Ha

Thanks for the article.
 
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"a high-end Nigerian men's clothing line specializing in customized dashikis. A dashiki is a colorful garment that covers the top half of the body, worn mostly in West Africa."

and hate to say this

Anything,, any emails any texts that come out from Nigeria (99.99999%) is a scam.....that what you have to deal with.....that reputation

another problem is domain registration fees in USD currency are too expensive in most of the 3rd world countries....you think a woman who has not rights in Afghanistan can afford to register a domain??

Domaining is for the privilege
 
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Empathy means seeing things from the buyer’s perspective. What challenges are they facing? What are their hopes for their business? When you take the time to understand your buyers’ industries and aspirations, you can offer relevant domains that truly resonate. Instead of delivering a generic sales pitch, you approach them with insight and genuine interest—building a relationship that goes beyond the transaction.
This is typically something you do as a Seller at an early stage, namely when you're registering or acquiring each of your domains. After that, the domains -in my case- go on BIN and if a buyer is interested, well he pays the price that applies at that time. Very simple. I would not wish for much more interaction at all. I'm not a broker or marketing agency, so there is absolutely no talk about building long-term relationships or returning customers.
 
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I was on a budget. Like most startups, I had to make every dollar count.

Don't be in hurry when it comes to trust & confidence. Quality=Consistency is the key. As cconsistency grows, so does the budget (customer base) and more. You should start w ElieFashion .com and 1-2-3-4-5 yrs later simply rebrand / upgrade to Elie .com , or even breakfast the EF .com

In business, relationships are everything

In business, mutual


Regards
 
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Just from a writer's and domainer's perspective, this, and many of your other posts seem straight out of ChatGPT.
 
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Just from a writer's and domainer's perspective, this, and many of your other posts seem straight out of ChatGPT.

In this case, I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing - English is probably not his first language, and using AI might help him convey his thoughts more effectively than if he had just written the sentences himself.


In fact, by adopting the buyer’s mindset, even if every inquiry or counteroffer doesn’t lead to a sale, you may be creating a lasting connection—turning a one-time buyer or inquirer into a loyal client who refers others to you.

Regarding repeat customers - I'm not saying this is a bad idea, but I'm not sure just how valuable having them is in the domain industry. While it works for almost all other types of business where securing customer trust and making multiple sales is important, buyers of domains tend to just gravitate towards a very specific name they are interested in. The chance of a previous buyer or one of their friends being interested in another of your names is probably very slim, unless you have a very large portfolio. Especially considering the millions of other names available out there for them to choose from which may be a better fit.
 
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Nice article Elie,

What problems for a company do domain names solve...rather than the usual ones ?

Warm Regards Michael.
 
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